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Woman on top

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
I am in a fantastic relationship and have a great sex life. I do however have difficulty with the "woman on top" position. I don't see what you do once you're on. Any detailed advice would be greatly apprieciated any sexperts out there! Cheers for you're help

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i know wot u mean!
    one thing,dont try and sit up like they do in movies etc!it kills u and him.well thats wot its like 4 me neway!

    try leaning forward or hugging him kinda thing!

    hope thats helped?!?!?!

    have fun <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    oh,and welcome to the site!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Cheers! I'l try that.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey there, hope it's going well <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    If you do have a go at sitting up, try putting your hands on his chest or the bed above his shoulders, it takes some pressure off the knees, lets you support yourself a bit, and still lets him do what he wants to you <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">...as you get used to it you'll probably find that it's quite easy to do without using hands...and that can be great <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    that's what works for me at least

    good luck
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    rt, i dreaded goin on top and only have done once, i feel such a prick sayin/askin this but when i did i leant forward on my arms and he kinda bounced on the bed 2 penetrate, i tried sorta 2 do the work but couldnt co-ordinate my self! and had 2 realy concentrate so the sex was shite. so im now so scared 2 try again!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My girlfriend is exactly the same helly. Shes so scared to do it again. I think that woman on top on a bed is incredibly difficult in practical terms. OK - to have a position in a porno for 5 secs is easy but to actual have comfortable sex is really hard.

    A chair is much better suited I think.

    Marvin
    "And then she asked me, 'Do I look alright?' And I say 'Yes, you look wonderful tonight.'"
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    simple solution - get the man to sit up, then use his shoulders to hold onto. dead easy. and it's better 'cos u control how fast you go, he can touch/kiss your breasts, body etc.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well personally I quite like being on top...guess Im the only one though lmao!
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Mega Poster Posts: 2,822
    hehe well i dont mind it either lolly! not all the time though, i like it about the same as missionary though.

    I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It really does hurt after a while if you are both "banging" together while trying to have sex.

    You should ask her to lean over a little so that you can "put it in" better...without all the ruffle.

    But, in all fairness, its a position thats difficult to master.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i had trouble with it a lot, but now my boyfriend and i have got the hang of it (i think!)...

    it's best when you go pretty slow (otherwise his penis tends to slip out)... sometimes i'll lift my pelvis up so the tip of his penis is about to go inside me, and i stay there for a while, and then come down again, so he goes deep inside me. sometimes he'll arch his back, and then he goes deep inside as well... the trick is to stop and start and tease a little bit, then when you actually get going, it's much more intense.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think practice makes perfect with all positions but imho its not a difficult position.

    by the way amadee, where abouts in oxford are you? dont answer if you dont want to.

    pyrex
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i'm not in oxford... i wish i were. i only put oxford because it's home to me, where i grew up and lived most of my life so far, and because most of the people here are british and i didn't want to be labeled as a yankee freak <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; but i lived in jericho and then summertown. are you in oxford? i'm hoping to go back there next year for work experience with college. my mum still has a house in summertown (well, actually sunnymede, it's right before the council housing) that she's renting out... i hope to live there for 6 months or so. we'll see <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; I miss it!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You are in Wilmington NC! I am going there for the whole summer <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    I'm attending UNCW summer school and hopefully going on for the 2003 semesters! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    : Ross @ Ross Project :
    : www.rossproject.co.uk :

    : a weblog :
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I used to be scared of going on top, but then when i did it i really liked it cause i got to be in control of the speed and everything.

    Let him lie down with legs together, sit on top of him legs at either side of him, make sure you are wet and slip his cock inside you gently, when you have don that start rocking to and from him start slow and when you are near climax get faster.

    If this don't work face the other way, this is good as well.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Do you remember learning to ride a bike? Well apply the same theory.

    (I know this sounds dumb but bear with me)

    Sometimes you'll come off, sometimes it'll hurt, sometimes you'll think you've got it just right and suddenly you are back to square one. Eventually though you get it spot on and you'll never want to get off again. Practise makes perfect and I'm sure that neither of you will object to doing that as often as you can... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    "So raise your fists and march around
    Don't dare take what you need
    I'll jail and bury those committed
    And smother the rest in greed"
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its great with a woman on top because we get to control the speed, try it and don't be scared!

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i like ur explanation man of kent!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its brilliant - but the only problem is his dick keeps falling out if ur not careful.
    xxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    So what does the guy do? <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok first u gotta relax...just pretend ur teasin by not bashin away instantly or summthin..manouver till u r comfy and lean slightly back squeeze hips fwd slowly tensing and untensing.. this is pretty tough goin on the hips tho..so u cud change it by leanin further fwd and pull urself up and down v slowly..be careful tho this takes practise...but most important talk to each other...good luck!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There's no point replying to someone who asked a question six months ago.

    Dead post.
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