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Politics and relationships
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I've met someone who seems really nice apart from the fact that we can't talk about politics. He's pretty right wing and I'm as lefty as you get before turning to Marx! I was part of the socialist society at uni, I'm very much a feminist and I probably use the word fascist too much.
Is political incompatibility likely to lead to a doomed relationship or do we just steer clear of politics? I'm interested in this in general as well not just in this case. I don't want everyone to think like me but sometimes I find someone telling me that they think my core beliefs are wrong just a tad difficult.
Is political incompatibility likely to lead to a doomed relationship or do we just steer clear of politics? I'm interested in this in general as well not just in this case. I don't want everyone to think like me but sometimes I find someone telling me that they think my core beliefs are wrong just a tad difficult.
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But give it a go anyway because you'll know pretty soon if it's shit or not.
But if these are major idealogical differences then you have a problem.
But if he thinks women should be tied to the kitchen sink and that abortion is evil, I'd be questioning why you actually think you have anything in common with him.
Eh?
Suggesting she force her beliefs onto this guy is about as un-liberal as it gets....
I'd say the fact you are questioning the "relationship" before it's even started means it probably isn't right.
Isn't it supposed to be easy at the beginning?
Being alone is far better than being with someone who you are completely incompatible with just for the sake of it, no?
well yeah, thats why it would probably be a deal breaker. I might find them physically attractive, but someones politics and ideals is just "them". It defines them really and I just couldnt properly fancy a right winger
I'll have to see how it's goes because we're been talking for 3 weeks nearly and this has been the first thing that has made me think twice.
If there were other things that made me itch then I wouldn't consider it, but he a fairly good match. I'm fairly happy on my own, I just decided to join up as a way of making friends and getting myself out there a bit but I seem to have found someone who seems pretty good, so far, asides being a Toryboy.
And Neddy - IMO it's never easy at first!
I think I'm just going to go with the flow - he's pro women's rights and the basic things that I agree with, there just a few things which I find a little hard. But me talking about politics never seems to be a good idea anyway!
State of politics today.
they all voted tory though
still unfuckworthy
I'm not sure being a tory makes you unfuckworthy. It just means you think problems can be solved differently. I was listening to R4 on my way to work, and there was a free market economist on and he said "The reason the banking crisis got so fucked, is because the government guaranteed deposits. If depositors were taking the risks with the bank, the risks wouldn't have been so large. Because if you're going to lose money you pay more attention". And I thought that made perfect sense. Although I still think that the government should protect deposits, and that bankers should be punished in a way other than having their bonuses taken away. He made sense. So.... yeah.
I actually think SCC is right though: someone's personality and belief system is a big part of whether they are fanciable. And I think I would struggle to fancy someone so lacking in empathy that they think Gideon Osborne is anything other than a big rancid dripping clunge.
I think its weird. Hes thick as shit
yeah, it's a big deal, I don't think sexy piccolo and I would work well if one of us was massively conservative. But it doesn't AUTOMATICALLY make you un-fanciable. I freely admit I'm yet to meet a conservative that I seriously respect and consider to be intelligent, except maybe G and possibly my dad. (I say maybe for both because I haven't met G in real life and my dad doesn't talk about politics).
In fact, my dad keeps very much to the Brasenose College dining table rules of parenting. You don't talk about Religion, Politics, Sport or Women. Because it's not gentlemanly. For the record, my dad came from a working class background and received a full scholarship due to his massive brain.
Good job she's not trying to bang you then