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I met my girlfriend in a Rugby chatroom in February. She lives local and We talked every night from february for at least a couple of hours a night on MSN messenger, but at the time I was seeing someone else. She is the perfect girl. I'm 16 and she's 16 in September.
Then she told me about her past; she was attacked by 2 men last year while walking home from her friends and she was also raped by her ex boyfriend.Consequently sh's been off school since last October. It's been a really traumatic time for her, and therefore she's been uptight about meeting up. We've been going out 6 weeks and we've met up a few times at the rugby (although hwer mum was there) and i told her we'd take it at her own pace, and that i'd never rush her into anything.
We're meeting up properly when she gets back and she wants to sleep with me, she says she trusts me totally and wants to do it. I'm a virgin. I've told her that if she's ready I am.
We've discussed Contraception and we're gonna use condoms and the pill. A concern we have is that because she's 15, if she goes the doctors, he will tell her parents. Would she be better going to a family planning clinic?
Any comments/answers would be much appreciated?
Then she told me about her past; she was attacked by 2 men last year while walking home from her friends and she was also raped by her ex boyfriend.Consequently sh's been off school since last October. It's been a really traumatic time for her, and therefore she's been uptight about meeting up. We've been going out 6 weeks and we've met up a few times at the rugby (although hwer mum was there) and i told her we'd take it at her own pace, and that i'd never rush her into anything.
We're meeting up properly when she gets back and she wants to sleep with me, she says she trusts me totally and wants to do it. I'm a virgin. I've told her that if she's ready I am.
We've discussed Contraception and we're gonna use condoms and the pill. A concern we have is that because she's 15, if she goes the doctors, he will tell her parents. Would she be better going to a family planning clinic?
Any comments/answers would be much appreciated?
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Many find going to the family clinic alot more easier. Its a personal preference really.
Take care.Have you split from that other girl there then.
I really love the girl i'm with now, she's perfect in every way!
I went on the pill when I was 15 cos me and my b/f wanted to do things right. Luckily my mum knew about it all and told me she thought I should go on it (for other reasons as well, dont want u all thinkin she was encouraging me to hav sex) So she came with me to the docs, but even if i'd gone on my own, the doc isnt allowed to say nething. Summit to do with patient confidentiality.
Neway, hav u talked to ur parents about this? They might b understanding about it.
Hope it helped! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
I don't think that there is any real suitable time to have sex, ust when you are both ready and feel you know each other and that sounds right so.. yeah go ahead <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Her doctor can't go to her parents. It might be preferable to go to the family planning clinic, because it's someone entirely seperate from your usual GP. In fact, you might be advised to go there- unless she feels the need to talk to her own doctor about it all, it's probably best to free him/her up for the sick people <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Also (not that I know anything) you should be as sure as you can that sex is what she wants, and that she is doing it for the right reasons. She's been through a lot, and maybe her experiences have led her to believe that sex is what YOU want, to keep the relationship going- or maybe she feels used by the last person who was 'inside' her and thinks that having sex with you would get rid of that feeling. Make sure she is under no obligation to sleep with you, and that she KNOWS you don't just want to have sex.
Hope it helped <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> Love Freya xxx
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