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What have you learned about relationships thus far ?
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Hi,
I just wanted to get some responses to the above question and see if I can glean some wisdom....
It could be perhaps what helps have good relationships (romantic and platonic) or anything you have learned thus far in life. Just thought it would be a good learning/discussion exercise.
I just wanted to get some responses to the above question and see if I can glean some wisdom....
It could be perhaps what helps have good relationships (romantic and platonic) or anything you have learned thus far in life. Just thought it would be a good learning/discussion exercise.
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And also what AR said. Nothing is ever set in stone
the grass is greener where you water it
People feelings towards each other are fluid, they can go either way and its not necessarily either persons fault.
There never is a "right" time, if you feel it and it makes sense (and its legal and safe) just do it!
A relationship solely based on physical attraction or sex isn't a relationship. Vice versa for being attracted to someone because of their personality - thats called a friendship.
You should never feel scared, embarressed, judged or put down in a relationship.
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Never to get back with someone whose cheated on you in the passed, they'll do it again!
Never expect people to change if you ask them to. It'll last a few weeks before everything ends up the same as before.
2) none of them last, until you find yourself in the right one
3) always make the time for your significant other
4) whatever happens, keep the lines of communication open
- Be honest... Even if it sometimes hurts.... Tough love can be a life saver (general)
- Don't socialise too much around drink and drugs. You soon learn who your friends are.
- Be reliable.
- Ask people about themselves, learn about them, their culture, their hobbies ect. Ain't nothin' more annoying coming away from a date having heard them talk solely about themselves for hours.
- Don't mix first dates and alcohol.
This is all so true.
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Also that however much you need to compromise to make a relationship work, you should never compromise yourself. Change your annoying habits, or try to work on your negative character traits, but don't change your core values or the person you are inside, or it will not work. People will treat you as well as you allow yourself to be treated. Do not compromise on abuse of any kind.
Don't expect it to be sunshine and roses all of the time, it won't be, but if it's not sunshine and roses at least some of the time, walk away.
On the other hand, i know that relationship thus so far in my life have taught me that, nothing else could ever make you as happy and feeling as complete. Money, items, friends, family can be amazing, but it's just not quite there.
everything in relationships is confusing and cryptic whilst also being very easy and simple... :P
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"It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that they are difficult." - Seneca
At the end of serious relationships for some time, after you get over the heartbreak. You realise how much fun and freedom you can have without limits.
2) The first 6 months is considered the romance stage of the relationship, once this time period is over..be ready to deal with real relationship issues.
3) Approach issues with your brain, not your emotions.
4) When dealing with conflicts, use phrases like "I feel.."..don't use "You never.." "You always.."
5) Just because you're in a relationship, doesn't mean nothing else exists outside of it.
6) Affection is important. Receive and reciprocate.
7) Don't be overwhelming..your significant other has a life of his or her own.
8) Date someone who supplements you..not someone who tears you down or makes you feel bad.
9) Verbal and physical abuse is not acceptable.
10) Every relationship is a learning experience..just because one doesn't work out, doesn't mean there won't be another one down the road that has all of the perks that you once had (and sometimes more!).
11) Be honest..never lie.
12) Have fun! Nothing lasts forever!