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I'm a pleasant break? Eh
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Well I've been talking to this guy I met whilst out on Facebook and we'd be talking for hours at a time. Anyway i noticed that he'd been posting on fb but wasn't online and panicked it was me. So sent him a message about something to find out
He replied Haha, I'm not online-online because I'm trying to avoid distraction, but don't worry! You're not a distraction, your a pleasant break!
Don't worry about that, your not the person I don't like talking to at the moment. But it's a long story.
Honest reply?
He replied Haha, I'm not online-online because I'm trying to avoid distraction, but don't worry! You're not a distraction, your a pleasant break!
Don't worry about that, your not the person I don't like talking to at the moment. But it's a long story.
Honest reply?
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your a pleasant break so he welcomes talking to you. xxx
well when we do talk its for a while and im sure if he didnt want to talk he'd ignore me as guys are forward like that. And he went offline for a couple of hours the one night and popped up appologising for going offline which was nice of him.
Do u think its good enough to maybe see if he fancies doing something?
certainly.
Even if we thought it might maybe not good enough, you should still do it. Why believing something when you can easily make sure?
so is that u are not completely convinced or maybe just give it a shot.... he seems to ask me alot of questions and is always appologising for stuff if i say something and im unsure of it hell say aww dont worry about that lol and i do think its quite sweet
do it, I am convinced, but independently of what I think, you should do it regardless.
StrubbleS is certain that you should ask him if he fancies doing something - you have nothing to lose!
thing is he does seem to like talking to me asking me questions etc but he very rarely initates conversation.....
I thought you asked a pretty clear question and I gave a pretty clear answer.
You asked "Do u think its good enough to maybe see if he fancies doing something?"
And I said, "certainly (it is)."
Why would you rather ponder, if him not initiating conversations is grounds for not asking him out? Do you think this gives you an definite answer if he actually wanna do something?
i dont know what to do tbh as i was worried when he went offline but he said it wasnt me and that he just didnt want to be distracted by facebook and that i was pleasant ot talk to yet i still worry maybe its me
when weve been talking if he goes offline he pops up later saying hi and he did wish me merry xmas but i dont know what to do
God you are hopeless. He gave you a perfectly good explanation why he went offline. Overthinking this does not answer your question whether he was telling the truth or not and the best part comes now: It doesn't fucking matter. You will find out if he tries to ignore you when you are asking him out! If he wants to meet you and enjoys your company on the meet/date, then you are INDEED a pleasant break from his work.
I can't even make sense of that. "He did wish me merry xmas but I don't know what to do." how are these two things related? Just ask him out? Why is that so difficult? What are you afraid of?
Stop reading malicious intent towards you specifically when he goes offline in facebook. Some people want to relax sometime and just not be available. Stop being so obsessive and think the whole world is out to get you and do what you want to do: Asking him out. And don't give me a "i dont kno what to do" because you've been advised 10 times now and you DO know what you want. Going out with him. So why are you making this so hard for yourself?
You wont know for sure what he is thinking unless you ask him! Theres no point trying to guess because a) you'll wind yourself up and b) probably be wrong.
I know how scary it is to ask someone out but at least you'll get your answer and can stop obsessing
well i do want to ask him out but want to do it casually rather than just messaging him saying hi let go out....
i do worry he is offline now to avoid me but he did say hes doing it so he isnt distracted but im to not worry it isnt me im a pleasant break.... and im sure if he didnt want to talk he wouldnt
Ask him for a drink, go to the cinema etc, something casual and see how it goes. If he accepts, thats already a good sign, then use whatever you do together as a way to see if you match, get on well, have lots to talk about etc. You might just have that one 'date' then you or him might decide not to take it any further but you wont know until you do it
thing is i got to wait for him to come online again... he came on a bit last friday but appears to have turned his chat off again hence why it makes me paranoid its me
thing is i do panic and i should stop but id rather do it in passing rather than just messaging him hey u wanna go out...
seriously though if he says it isnt me do i take that as a general answer?
If you do it in passing (ie asking him) does that not give him the chance to avoid the question, just ask him straight and then he can give you a straight answer.
Yeah that would be weird just getting paranoid he's avoiding me
Well he messaged me yesterday so all good...
So whats the plan? Carry on messaging him on facebook forever and ever and ever?
So, now is the time to reply with a message saying "Say, we're getting along well on here, fancy meeting up for a drink / chat / whatever?".