how to split the hymen?

Former Member

hi, sorry bout the post cos its an old question but ive been thru all the other stuff on it and i cant find anything that truly answers this.

My g/f and me are both virgins and her hymen is still very much intact...it hurts her loads when i touch it so i am wondering wots the least painful way to split it?

soz again about the old question.

Former Member

i don't think there's a easier way, you could probably try fingering her, but i don't know of another way. I learnt the hard way, but after that, everything was alright, we had to tryabout 3 times before i actually let him in, coz everytime he tried, i'd tense up, which is even more painful, so after three times, i relaxed i took it like a LADY! ouch!
though there was something funny about it, i didn't bleed, at all, not even a spot...

Former Member

well cheers for the info...she is really sensitive about which makes life real hard. i read up on some medical journals and stuff which said i should try massaging it gently but if i even brush it with a finger she cringes...did it hurt that much for you?

Former Member

for gods sake just get her to use super-dooper size tampax.that shold do the trick if not she had better just grin and bear the bloodbath that will follow.joke.its not that bad duckie.

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if she cringes when u just brush a finger near her then it sounds like she dont really wanna do it yet... it shouldn't be hurtin her that much, why dont u get her 2 finger herself then she'll see that it dont hurt that much...also the wetter she is the easier it'll be so try and turn her on b4 hand, play with her clit and stuff...

Former Member

how old is she?

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shes 16

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You asked me if it hurt, yeh it did, but at that point i was so turned on that it was like "pain is pleasure!" but honestly it sounds as if she isn't quite ready for sex yet, Being fingered shouldn't hurt... at all (i think). Yeh, i think you should let her do it her self, or you can try turning her, the easiest way to ease the pain is to get her wet, regardless of if it means using your tongue, finger, or penis....

Former Member

tell her 2 wear a large tampon and go horse riding - shood do the trick.

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k. thx for the advice

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It always hursts a woman first time no mater what you do. You will just have to get it over and done with. Then you can both enjoy the sex with out having to stop because it hurts.

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dazed and confused

Former Member

If she has her period then her hymen is broken, but some might still be intacked. There is a psychological condition where if a girl associates sex or sexual activity as "bad" then her body tenses up so that sex is impossible. This happens if the girl has been raised in a strict religious house or was molested as a child or other similar situations. I would suggest that she sees a doctor. There could be a medical condition involed.

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This may help: http://www.thesite.org/sex/general_sex/painful_sex.html

Former Member

Originally posted by castle_in_the_sky:
It always hursts a woman first time no mater what you do.

Actually, that's not true.

Former Member

Originally posted by Isabellejean:
If she has her period then her hymen is broken

And that's not true either. In the vast majority of girls, the hymen is a thin membrane that only goes over part of the inside of the vagina, allowing the menstrual blood to flow out. It isn't like a brick wall that has to be broken down!

There's been some bad advice on these boards lately, and I'd like to remind all our users that the comments posted are not necessarily facts. If you are confused about any aspect of sex, call the experts (such as Brook Advisory) and get unbiased and factually correct advice.



[This message has been edited by Karla (edited 01-11-2001).]