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Who should the parents be?
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Another story I had to try and piece together from my viewpoint of the till I work on, from the papers headlines.
Heres a proper link type thing.
IVF blunder
Basically... there was a mix up, and a white couple are going to have coloured kids. The white mother wants to keep the children, but the black donors also want them, and so a judge may have to decide who the real parents are.
How would you decide such a thing? Do you side with the birth mother, or take into consideration the fact that genes from the black couple were used to make the child?
Heres a proper link type thing.
IVF blunder
Basically... there was a mix up, and a white couple are going to have coloured kids. The white mother wants to keep the children, but the black donors also want them, and so a judge may have to decide who the real parents are.
How would you decide such a thing? Do you side with the birth mother, or take into consideration the fact that genes from the black couple were used to make the child?
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What will be achieved by separating them now?
Nothing stops the black couple from going through the process again...
You can guarantee tho' that now that lawyers are involved this is gonna end in an almighty mess, with no-one satisfied and a huge bill to finish it all off.
Don't like my idea?.... Its got good precedent...
All I really care about is no-one sueing the NHS.
Thats the course of action I really cannot condone:
"this place is underfunded, so I have not received the level of service I was expecting. The best thing for me to do is to TAKE EVEN MORE CASH AWAY FROM THEM."
In litigation the only people that win are the lawyers.
Don't get me started on that topic, £4bn in legal cases last year ...Grrrr :mad:
The parents (whether biological or not) are those that live with and care for the children, but at such a young age this doesn't really apply to the twins either.
I agree with Man Of Kent that the twins shouldn't be moved about yet. Neither should they be "swapped" back to their biological parents.
As the twins were born in the same hospital, chances are the parents live pretty close and so the couples will be able to see both sets of twins more easily. At the moment, it doesn't seem like either couple is trying to stop the other having access to the children, and so I guess that's a good thing.
I don't know what I'd do in such an unusual situation- whateber happens, at least one couple will be unhappy.
I see that you came to this thread with your emotional bags packed then Ilson
What will matter is whether or not they have had loving parents. Even adoptive children don't always want to know their genetic parents...
The fact that the twins are coloured, but born to white parents may cause problems later in life, but that can be worried about later. Anyway, who says that you have to have the same skin colour as your parents?
Nobody asked Louise Brown if she wanted to be the first test tube baby. She is happy enough isn't she? i bet she feels special. That is how the twins might feel. They should be kept in contact with their biological parents, who in turn, should be offered another course of IVF for free. After all it is not their fault that it got messed up.
Also, can I ask whether the same argument wouild have arisen, or indeed if anyone would have noticed, if both sets of parents had been the same colour?
If I were in their situation a)I'd have a heart-attack b) I'd want situation remedied ie where are my children
I thought point of IVF was you get your own biological children, otherwise you might as well adopt