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Ask him out or not?
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Ok, some quick advice needed people!
Guy at work - I like him - I want to ask him out - I'm scared he'll say no and then work will be really weird - how will I face him? We don't work in the same office but we would have to see each other every morning and potentially pass each other during the day.
What should I do??
Guy at work - I like him - I want to ask him out - I'm scared he'll say no and then work will be really weird - how will I face him? We don't work in the same office but we would have to see each other every morning and potentially pass each other during the day.
What should I do??
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Go for it, i'm sure he'll be thrilled
Ok if you guys have had a few conversations and he's giving signs go for it ask him out! If you've had a few conversations nothing to serious or long try talking with him a few more times and drop hints here and there things should work out fine! if he does say no just carry on and try moving on and forgeting about him it'll be fine i'm sure of it.
I remember from your last post that he's over ten years older than you are, that could be influencing your co-worker's opinion. Most men are suspicious of men who date women who are significantly younger than they are, because we expect that a lot of men are just doing it to have the thrill and kudos of bagging a young girl. It doesn't mean our suspicions are founded, though, and quite often they're not.
Why don't you email him and see if he responds? Just to say hello or whatever.
Hey, I was in the same context you're in. Same dilemma. Girl my age. I've had lots of long conversations ... lots of flirty ones too. I dropped hints and mistook some signals as hints to ask her out. :d :d
I now work so embarrassed because we see each other more regularly than you and your man. We travel together, work together for quite a lot of time and now i just look at her and think "if only...". We're no longer as close friends and rarely talk to each other too.:crying: :no: :crying: :no:
If you haven't already make sure you ask him. Mine said "We can't go out because we are too close friends" and thats all she saw me as. Maybe if i'd asked her earlier this wouldn't have happened.
We do joke and flirt via text message but I'm just not sure about how to tack on the bit about going out for drink. Stupid I know, cause it really is very simple! I just worry that I'm deluding myself into thinking that he could be interested in me and the more I think about it the more I convince myself that he isn't. But maybe the fear about asking him out is not so much the fear that he rejects me, but more the fear that once I know for sure that he doesn't want me, then the hope and the fantasy is gone and maybe I enjoy that more. I don't even know if that makes sense!!
If you ask for a drink or a coffee out, you're not opening yourself too much even if he's not interested. How about arranging to go for a coffee on your lunch hour one day?
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That's the sensible approach.
I think you should ask him if he fancies a drink after work, get drunk and then make a grab for his willy.
I think you should ask him if he fancies a drink after work, get him drunk and then make a grab for his willy.
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Between us we're forming a completely credible and virtually foolproof plan!
Surely both of them getting drunk would be better?:p
I think a man rarely says no to a woman unless he has a good reason. In my personal opinion, i have to say it feels very nice to see some signs from a woman, but it he is a person who doesn't get these signs often, he might get a bit cocky about it and act like an idiot. I think if you are above average in looks and a nice person to hang out with, i would say go for it.(also wear a nice perfume-not a slutty one-. Those oils you women use can do magic :P ) And if it gets weird its ok really, it will stop being weird after some time. Just do whatever you want to do,adults have this advantage:) After all how will you ever find out? :thumb:
What does a slutty perfume smell like compared to a nice one?! Can you name any brands? Just so we all know what to go for/avoid!