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So what are you doing to find local friends?
Exactly. I went out with friends one evening and after 7pm, the buses here are 1 every half hour. Because I wasn't prepared to walk all the way into town, wait in the cold for a bus, I decided that my only option was a taxi. I used to get a taxi from a friends home to mine in the evening - because I didn't like walking under the subway in the dark.
The lack of public transport didn't prevent me from going out.
Is there a gym you could get to? Might meet some people there?
Public Transport isn't ideal. Where I live it's shocking and my "life" is a good 16 miles from where I live and the trains finish really early s do the busses, walking isn’t an option and at £25 neither is a Taxi. I just either need to finish my night early or arrange to crash at a mates. At least you can consider getting a car, but some of us can't drive (well I can, but the DVLA won't give me my licence back - and no it's not because I broke the law it's on health grounds). It’s all about planning, yes it makes things a bit more awkward, but that’s life!
Exactly. Whilst not being able to drive is a pain in the arse, it's something I've had to accept and get over.
OP - I think you're just making excuses.
If I had no friends whatsoever then I might be more open to spending hours of my free time walking in the mud by the side of duel carriageways at night and risk running across two lanes of traffic, vaulting the barrier and running across the other two lanes in order to get to a social in a pub. Then do the same journey back and get home in the early hours of the morning and try to get a few hours sleep before getting up for work.
I guess I am jealous of my friends who have local friends and can just walk round each others houses or to pubs. That said I think I am better of trying to make the most of my weekends away with them rather than exhausting myself with another set of distance friends.