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Unhappy with sex life not sure what to do
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Hi everyone,
I am new, this is my first time posting. I have had constant issues in my marriage with my sex life and tonight I just wanted to cry about it. I have cried many times over it and am at a loss as to what to do.
I have been married for 6 years and in that time have felt like my husband may as well be having sex with a doll. I have never been allowed to do anything. If we went with me on top, he hold me and thrust himself, if I moved at all in missionary, he tell me to lie still, same goes for every position we tried, I am not allowed to move.
When we first got married I wanted to try lots of things, but after being told not to move or do anything, I gave up.
I used to like dressing up, but he never cared and told me not to bother.
Tonight he tells me he thinks I am inexperienced, I need to learn how to do stuff and I should dress up again.
I am fine with lingerie and stuff. My issue is he has never let me do anything other than lie there so how was I supposed to get experience. We have discussed this before and he always says 'next time you can do it' but when we have sex, he takes over and tells me to lay there again anyway.
I am soooooo frustrated with it all and don't know what to do.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Sorry for the long post.
I am new, this is my first time posting. I have had constant issues in my marriage with my sex life and tonight I just wanted to cry about it. I have cried many times over it and am at a loss as to what to do.
I have been married for 6 years and in that time have felt like my husband may as well be having sex with a doll. I have never been allowed to do anything. If we went with me on top, he hold me and thrust himself, if I moved at all in missionary, he tell me to lie still, same goes for every position we tried, I am not allowed to move.
When we first got married I wanted to try lots of things, but after being told not to move or do anything, I gave up.
I used to like dressing up, but he never cared and told me not to bother.
Tonight he tells me he thinks I am inexperienced, I need to learn how to do stuff and I should dress up again.
I am fine with lingerie and stuff. My issue is he has never let me do anything other than lie there so how was I supposed to get experience. We have discussed this before and he always says 'next time you can do it' but when we have sex, he takes over and tells me to lay there again anyway.
I am soooooo frustrated with it all and don't know what to do.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Sorry for the long post.
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