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Girlfriend has had breast implants
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Hey,
Well my GF of four years had a boob job in May 2010. She had never previously talked about having it done and her figure did not need to have it done. She's always been a stunner.
However, she met a new group of friends in the bars and clubs she goes out in at the start of 2010 and hit me with the news that she was going to have her boobs done. Obviously i thought she was not going to go ahead with it but she went ahead with it.
She looks amazing, but she has changed and i now hardly see her because aside from her going out at weekends to parties and going the gym during the week, she has met a guy that has become her agent and she has started doing modelling. Her clothes, especially for going out but also in everday wear, leave little to the imagination.
She appears to spend more time with her agent than me, and im at my wits end with everything.
Well my GF of four years had a boob job in May 2010. She had never previously talked about having it done and her figure did not need to have it done. She's always been a stunner.
However, she met a new group of friends in the bars and clubs she goes out in at the start of 2010 and hit me with the news that she was going to have her boobs done. Obviously i thought she was not going to go ahead with it but she went ahead with it.
She looks amazing, but she has changed and i now hardly see her because aside from her going out at weekends to parties and going the gym during the week, she has met a guy that has become her agent and she has started doing modelling. Her clothes, especially for going out but also in everday wear, leave little to the imagination.
She appears to spend more time with her agent than me, and im at my wits end with everything.
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Your girlfriend getting a boob job without you expecting it must've come as a surprise for you, especially after 4 years together. You say you do like it, however it seems over time you feel she is not spending enough time with you and perhaps has even changed?
Is this something you think you could speak to her about? Communication can resolve a lot of issues in couples. Perhaps make sure you show her that you miss her rather than stating her boob job as the problem. The less she feels attacked the more you will get an honest response about how she feels or why she might spend less time with you.
Good luck
If she doesn't bring you with her...there's a reason why.
You need to dump her - before she dumps you.
it sounds as though the whole "boob job" thing has gone to her head! shes had this sudden boost in self esteem and shes got the confidence now to do all these things that she wouldnt of done
I can imagine your upset that you hardly see her anymore...maybe its time to re think about where your relationship is going maybe you need to tell her how abadoned you feel and your worries. after all you've been together 4 years...not 4 months, so talking to her should be easy
Sorry couldnt be more positive! hope it all works out for you
Thankyou to those that have replied.
I have had a long chat with my GF and she has been open and honest about the situation.
She told me she went up to a big size with the aim of getting the 'porn look', and she loves the results. She said that at first the attention was flattering and the reason why she has worn sexier and sexier clothes is because she loves knowing guys are lusting over her when she is out and it makes her feel amazing.
I asked her to tell me about her agent and the time she spends with him and what her ideal situation with modelling is. She told me she gets on very well with her agent and he looks after her and she trusts him to guide her career. She wants to model in porn mags, and that is the route they are going down with her. Glamour does not interest her, they currently have a lot of interest from porn mags and that is her aim.
This is not looking good to be honest.
Yes, to be honest, I strongly agree with you. I am not too keen on boob jobs either, so I wouldn't really know how to feel if my g/f got one, but if it makes her into a totally different person, who tries to look porn and thrives of other men lusting about her, then I would realize this is not the person I want to be anymore and I would never get into a relationship with her if I just met her like this.
I might be a bit old fashioned or radical here (and might get stick for it), but only defining you over your looks (especially sex characteristics), and BEING someone, just because of your looks is a sign of a weak personality to me and one of the biggest repulsion there is.
Ive had a boob job, and i dont have ANYTHING like the attitude of your girlfriend, nor do a lot of people who get them.
I agree it doesnt look good in this situation though.
No longer with my GF - she did her first porn mag shoots last week and one involved her being 'initmate' (you get the pciture) with a porn star for the photoshoot.
She came back and acted very funnily with me and seemed distant. The next day she was in bed most of the day, recovering as she put it, and told me in the evening she was leaving me.
Her agent came and collected all of her belongings with her and i heard today she is 'stopping' with her agent.
Thanks to everyone who responded. Everyone saw the writing on the wall, even if naively i didnt.
But good job of losing that horrible wench.
If I may suggest to look on the bright side: If someone is telling you about his crazy, horrible (ex)-girlfriend, you can probably one-up them. "Oh, I hear your story about your ex stealing your favorite pair of converse when she left you, but let me add my crazy self-absorbed and self-obsessing ex who ran off with someone who paid for her boob job and finally left me when I was not happy when she started working in the porn industry getting fornicated by steroid jimmys." I'd immediately stop whining and buy you a beer.
Chin up, my broseph.
So sorry to hear it did not end well, keep strong. Break ups are hard and mending takes time - give yourself that time. Try and keep busy - see friends, do new activities etc and gradually it will get better.
Hearing things from people who know her, about her, can also make this hard, so maybe you could try distancing yourself from them for a while?
Big Hug *hug*