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How long have you been single?
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Just out of curiosity, I'm one of the only people I know around my age that's been single for quite some time, everyone else is in fairly steady relationships or never single long. I feel like a bit of an oddball so would like to see what the situation is like on here.
Oh and I'm 21 and been single just under 3 years.
Oh and I'm 21 and been single just under 3 years.
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I feel like i'm never going to feel strongly for another person ever again. Part of me loves being single because quite frankly i'm fed up of relationship bullcrap, stress, and heartache that inevitably happens but part of me also wants a relationship, im just scared incase i put all my emotions and effort into it and get hurt again.
Like i said i dont see me falling for anyone like i did my exes but you never know
Yeah same I've had a couple of flings along the way and have been lied to to get me into bed but that's it. And I'm same about feeling like I won't fall for anyone that much again, especially after pushing 3 years and being single all the way through uni. And I worry when guys find out I've been single so long they're going to think theres something wrong with me
What do i win?
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people make choices to stay single for periods of time for a variety of reasons and these are as varied as the individuals so noone should judge. The longest i was single was between 16-20, then i was single for around a year the next time. my current boyfriend had never had a relationship before he met me and we were both 27, not because there was anything wrong with him, but coz he said he wasn't into doing the longterm thing til he met someone he felt was special. I don't know where i came into that though lol.
Moreover am I bit complicated, a bit afraid of bonding with someone as I feel it restricts me in my liberties and I attract (and am attracted) to really complicated girls, who I let walk over me in the past and see me as their own personal toy, i.e. something without emotions that just pleases on demand, without protest. So this really goes two ways, for all the, "all men are assholes"-girls out there.
Would say I've been just a bit unlucky, but heyho, there is more to life.
This is true, I've grown up and matured so much while I've been single and I've accomplished so much on my own. It's also allowed me to do stuff like spend several weeks abroad without any worries. Sometimes I get a bit woe is me about it, but I know you can't force relationships to happen. One will come along eventually...just taking so fricking long!
it does feel like that but i was 27 before i met my mr perfect...i had to kiss a few frogs to get there which to be honest were really damaging to myself and with hindsight i wish i had just been single for the time i waited!
Sometimes I wish I was...