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a floating condom in my toilet is ruining my relationship! please help!
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Hi. My relationship is at risk because of a stupid accident which I cannot explain myself, so I decided to turn to you for help and clarification.
It's really a weird situation and I am uncomfortable to talk about it, but thats the beauty of Internet - I can stay incognito.
My boyfriend and I have a great sex life and he is the best partner I have ever had. I love him to pieces and feel like he loves me too. The only thing that's missing is trust, especially on his part. And the incident I am about to tell you doesn't make the situation any better.
He found a used condom floating in my toilet. I have no clue how it got there. All I am sure about is that I would never cheat on him. I love him way too much for that. The only thing I can think of is that our own condom kind of didn't go through and stayed floating in the toilet, but as far as I remember the last time I used the restroom nothing was there. Could it be that it just didn't go through the pipes and floated back up? Or is that possible that my neighbors had disposed of a condom and it somehow appeared in my toilet? The apartment I live in is not used by anyone but me. My boyfriend is sure that its not one of our condoms. He thinks I've cheated on him, which is absolutely ridiculous. Do you have any suggestions about what could have possibly happen? This whole issue is really threatening my relationship with the person I love. I have no idea what to do. Please help.
It's really a weird situation and I am uncomfortable to talk about it, but thats the beauty of Internet - I can stay incognito.
My boyfriend and I have a great sex life and he is the best partner I have ever had. I love him to pieces and feel like he loves me too. The only thing that's missing is trust, especially on his part. And the incident I am about to tell you doesn't make the situation any better.
He found a used condom floating in my toilet. I have no clue how it got there. All I am sure about is that I would never cheat on him. I love him way too much for that. The only thing I can think of is that our own condom kind of didn't go through and stayed floating in the toilet, but as far as I remember the last time I used the restroom nothing was there. Could it be that it just didn't go through the pipes and floated back up? Or is that possible that my neighbors had disposed of a condom and it somehow appeared in my toilet? The apartment I live in is not used by anyone but me. My boyfriend is sure that its not one of our condoms. He thinks I've cheated on him, which is absolutely ridiculous. Do you have any suggestions about what could have possibly happen? This whole issue is really threatening my relationship with the person I love. I have no idea what to do. Please help.
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but as others have said you shouldn't flush them, you should recycle them, wash them out and turn them inside out
There's some information here about dealing with jealousy in a relationship (it was originally written from the point of view of a woman who was worried her boyfriend was cheating on her, but the advice in terms of sorting out jealousy issues within a relationship might be useful to you).
As you say, a lack of trust can make things difficult, so I hope this helps if you're looking for a way to make things more stable in the long term.
Put them in the bin like everyone else.
What happens if he thinks she just started the thread to get him onside?