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childhood promise

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
On my 6th birthday my bestfriend had given me a pretty necklace. i had promised him to never take it off. now i am 14 and i havent seen him since 2nd grade. i still havent taken it off. i will be seeing him for the first time in years at a party my mom is hosting. i dont know, is this promise made by a 6 year old really that important? and if not, why do i feel as if i must keep this promise? its not that important but i would like to hear your thoughts and opinions on this. is it silly? or is it..not?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    awww thats so cute!!! Still wear it if hes coming to the party and see if he remembers
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i just don't want to look like a fool. its stupid that i'm so compelled to keep this promise. and i guess it is kind of cute.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think it's a nice gesture. It will make for a good story to tell your grandkids when you end up marrying him.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol i'm not going to marry him, i don't even know what he looks like anymore! :p and i just find it odd that i want to keep such a silly promise
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If it's a pretty necklace, wear it anyway!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    StrubbleS wrote: »
    I think it's a nice gesture. It will make for a good story to tell your grandkids when you end up marrying him.

    :lol: blatent truth.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Not to be rude, but i didn't ask if i should wear it, i asked why i feel so compelled to keep this promise.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    shy_devil_girl wrote: »
    Not to be rude, but i didn't ask if i should wear it, i asked why i feel so compelled to keep this promise.

    Because it is honourable, A promise is not an empty thing to you, which speaks a lot about your character,

    regardless of it is a little silly thing or something big, a promise is a promise regardless of size, it seems thats the important thing to you, so, Go for it, wear it, it's more than just he gave it to you, it speaks about who you are :) he will realise that :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You can look at it two ways, you can look at it as keeping a promise that you made to a person in particular, or you can look as it as you keeping by what you said you'd do.

    So it might not be about the person, it might be more about you sticking by what you say. And on those grounds, I think it's a really good reminder about keeping promises (even if you don't always manage to keep all of them)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hmmm... i guess it does make sense. thank you all for responding to my thread, its nice to know that somebody, anybody, was listening...er...well...reading haha :p xoxoxo shy_devil_girl
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    shy_devil_girl wrote: »
    Not to be rude, but i didn't ask if i should wear it, i asked why i feel so compelled to keep this promise.

    dunno, maybe youre a bit of a romantic? maybe youre a bit obsessive?

    I dont know you so its hard to say
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd mention it - if nothing else you can ask permission to break the promise. They almost certainly don't remember.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think one must remember that you were only 6 when you made this 'promise'. Six year old's don't really have any real understanding of the implications of a 'promise' and so, if you have taken off the necklace, I'd say that was understandable and forgiveable.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    shy_devil_girl and that dude that gave her the necklace sit in a tree, K.I.S.S.I.N.G. !!!! HAHAHA!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ahhh no. lol i have a boyfriend thank you :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    shy_devil_girl wrote: »
    ahhh no. lol i have a boyfriend thank you :p

    Heh and my wife was engaged :razz:

    Honestly, good luck, have fun and hopefully you can catch up with your friend
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hellfire wrote: »
    Heh and my wife was engaged :razz:

    Honestly, good luck, have fun and hopefully you can catch up with your friend

    haha :p and thank you, i hope so too :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi shy_devil_girl,

    The fact that you kept this promise all this time, to agree with Hellfire, does show a special part of your character. You can ask whether it is silly but you felt it necessary to keep it all this time for some reason, and if that was your instinct, it cannot be silly!

    Do let us know how the party went and how seeing him was like!

    Good luck:wave:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    When's the party? If you've had it, how'd it go?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's not untill next week. And I will post how it goes, I promise ;)
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