Getting back in touch

Former Member

I recently had a dream about my ex and his new gf (basically they randomly came to see me to have a chat and catch up) and it made me realise how much I miss him as a friend (I don't want to get back with him, he's seemingly happy with his new gf and I have a new life now too). We were best friends as well as bf/gf and went through alot together. It wasn't a particuarly messy split although very painful, so we bear no brunts against each other. We kept in touch for a few months after we split but then it just stopped, we now haven't spoken for 2 years but still have each other on facebook (I always assumed he'd delete me). And just yesterday I saw him come on msn for the first time in about 2 years, which was so random as I assumed he'd blocked or deleted me. I didn't say anything and he wasn't on for long. So I was thinking, would it be worth catching up and being friends again (bearing in mind he lives 200 miles away so I won't be seeing him in person) as he would have blocked all contact from me if he didn't want to hear from me again - or should I just let sleeping dogs lie, as I don't know how he or his gf would take randomly hearing from an ex from years back? My friend's keep saying go for it, but being all around 20/21 and most not having had serious relationships come to an end I don't really trust their judgement...so would appreciate opinions from a wider range of folk with different experiences.

Thanks in advance.

Former Member

i'm 24 so not much older than your friends - but i'd also say 'go 4 it'.
i was always burning bridges behind me, and now i'd wish to speak with some of my ex, just because with some of them i was also good friends.
I managed to keep friendship with my last ex bf - it was very difficult cause we went through bad times, lots of anger between us - but all in all, he is my friend. we don't meet anymore, but we stay in phone/net contact.
i find it so much easier to just throw people away, stop contacting - but then i miss them - and it's not easy to repair things after some time. i made few mistakes like that. so if you have a chance to get back in touch with someone you liked - yes, go for it. who knows, maybe you're gonna remain great friends... and that's what i'd wish everyone.

Former Member

I would say that you probably need a 2 year cooling off period after the messy end of a relationship but you can still be friends/acquaintances

Former Member

I wouldn't do it personally. Some things are best left in the past and I don't really see how digging up an ex you haven't talked to for two years is going to enhance your life.

I'd advise to go on with your current life.

Former Member

He was online again earlier, again only briefly. This is really random.

Former Member

No harm sending an email to say hi I don't think. See what happens.