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Sorry to throw out the rules of equality, but this specifically about blokes, we all now girls are always crying :rolleyes:
So lads, when do you cry ? If ever ? Do you consider it a sign of weakness ? Have you ever tried to hold back tears for fear of looking stupid ?
Can it be controlled ?
From my perspective I just don't seem to cry, not through choice really, perhaps I don't have tear ducts or something
The only time in the last four years was when Brazil beat us and one solitary tear trickled down my cheek, which really shocked me ! And thats despite family deaths etc.......
So lads, when do you cry ? If ever ? Do you consider it a sign of weakness ? Have you ever tried to hold back tears for fear of looking stupid ?
Can it be controlled ?
From my perspective I just don't seem to cry, not through choice really, perhaps I don't have tear ducts or something
The only time in the last four years was when Brazil beat us and one solitary tear trickled down my cheek, which really shocked me ! And thats despite family deaths etc....... 0
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Dunno why....I see crying in public not so much as a sign of weakness, but as a sign of low self respect.
My sisters wedding last year I couldn't stop crying all the way through it. You could hear it clearly on the wedding video.
I'm not afraid to cry infront of some of my girl mates, even if its just about nothing, because there isnt quite as much need to be seen as tough infront of them, we all bond really well together so there's less need to put on a macho front.
The weird thing is, when it comes to things I perhaps should cry about (like seeing my granny die) I find myself bottling it up quite a bit, and not crying until a couple of weeks after its happened. I suppose I'm just weird like that.
A lot of times I've felt a lot better after a bit of a cry if I'm feeling down in the dumps, or have something on my mind. I dont have a problem with it, its just part of my personality I suppose.
FF7 was better
I can't remember the last time I properly cried. I had a tear in my eye when England lost to Brazil though and through most of May/June (bloody hayfever :mad: )
I don't cry in public at all. I'd rather be by myself or write/type it out somewhere. I find stuff easier to cope with if I get it all down on paper even if no one see's it
I used to cry fairly often when I was depressed.... I found it helped. Haven't for a while now... can't remember the exact reason.
I cry whenever something upsets me badly enough, its not something i really think about, i think most girls would be the same as we are all pretty up front about emotions,
blokes are definately different, ive been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and not once has he shed a tear, and i find that really strange! I think cryings good................better out than in..............????? But i think that he just doesn't get upset about many things at all. Ive been in the presence of boys crying..........................funnily enough, i think they were ALL drunk at the time.............hmmmmmm........
Oh well, maybe girls just have more to deal with than boys, i don't know!
Love ya xxxxxxx
Its more a question of how the respective genders deal with things surely ?
Love ya xxxxx
There are several times when I have cried in my life:
- watching E.T. aged 6.
- parents divorce (a lot) aged 10.
- when I was drunk and "nobody liked me" aged 13.
Emotions are for the weak.
One of the last things my grandad told me before dropping dead, very wise words.
Have to disagree I'm afraid.
I dont see myself as weak just because I'm not afraid to cry when I feel like it. Certainly its helped me feel better about things in the past. Maybe I am looked down upon by some people because of it, but I'm not too bothered. It's just part of my personality, just as many people accept it as don't.
Love ya xxxxxxx
Love ya xxxxx
Its not a matter of hiding them, emotions are a hinderence, they cloud your ability to think straight. When I say i don't cry, I'm not bottling anything up, I'm not hiding anything, I just deal with the situation differently.
The more emotinal a person is the chances are they are unable to deal with things as well.
Being around someone who is constantly crying is shite, but really, what is the point of doing anything if you don't feel things?
Because in theory you get them done better, getting excited watching football is all very well, but as I found to my cost this year the more you build something up, the greater the fall. The best line is a nice neutral one, straight down the middle where you can control both positive and negative emotions.
if i really, really get hurt or if i lose someone dear to me i will cry. Thta seems all though, i seem to have an inability to cry, even when i want to.
Disagree entirely, I thought it was lovely to see a bloke cry. I can't think of a better way to put it- it sounds like I take joy from others suffering! But nah, it was nice, motherly protective streak coming through!!
I just thought it was awful when he tried to stop because his mates would think he was a prick. That's where this 'blokes can't cry' thing comes from and its a load of shite!!