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Am I being dumb?!?
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Hi all
I just have a quick situation to run by you for ideas. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and for the first few months it was great, we both fell so quickly for each other. Then he had a long stint of late shifts at work which meant we never saw much of each other for weeks. Since that time he's continued to back of a little more all the time.
We had a discussion about it the other day and he explained it as something he has always done in relationships and that he was once told by his GP that his backing off was due to the fact his parents relationship meant they weren't together a lot.
He did say that he doesn't want to stop seeing me and that fancying me isn't the problem so I decided that because I feel so much for him that I am willing to try work through this.
He is also going through some tough financial times where he doesn't have any disposable income. This I think is going to be a major barrier in whether it works or not, because he hates to stay in the house (I'm not a fan of that either tbh), he's not a host at all and is in a bit of a huff with himself he's in this situation financially.
I just wanted some advice on what to do really. If we are going to try make it work, what fun stuff can we do together that'll make staying in not so bad
I just have a quick situation to run by you for ideas. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and for the first few months it was great, we both fell so quickly for each other. Then he had a long stint of late shifts at work which meant we never saw much of each other for weeks. Since that time he's continued to back of a little more all the time.
We had a discussion about it the other day and he explained it as something he has always done in relationships and that he was once told by his GP that his backing off was due to the fact his parents relationship meant they weren't together a lot.
He did say that he doesn't want to stop seeing me and that fancying me isn't the problem so I decided that because I feel so much for him that I am willing to try work through this.
He is also going through some tough financial times where he doesn't have any disposable income. This I think is going to be a major barrier in whether it works or not, because he hates to stay in the house (I'm not a fan of that either tbh), he's not a host at all and is in a bit of a huff with himself he's in this situation financially.
I just wanted some advice on what to do really. If we are going to try make it work, what fun stuff can we do together that'll make staying in not so bad
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No we don't have friends in common. He's 7 years older than me so its getting used to the age gap also.
I've met a few of his friends and we all get on great.