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Going to uni but gf isn't
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Hi,
I'm 19 and have been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years. This Sunday I'm off to Nottingham University but my girlfriend is having a gap year and so is staying at home.
I really want to stay with her and make things work but I understand it will be difficult. I will only be 55 mins away on the train so am planning on coming back most weekends; this isn't just because of her but also because I have sailing training at home and a few other commitments.
We both trust each other but I was wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation and has any advice? I'm also a bit worried that I'm going to be the only person in my Halls going home at weekends.
Anything appreciated.
Thanks,
I'm 19 and have been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years. This Sunday I'm off to Nottingham University but my girlfriend is having a gap year and so is staying at home.
I really want to stay with her and make things work but I understand it will be difficult. I will only be 55 mins away on the train so am planning on coming back most weekends; this isn't just because of her but also because I have sailing training at home and a few other commitments.
We both trust each other but I was wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation and has any advice? I'm also a bit worried that I'm going to be the only person in my Halls going home at weekends.
Anything appreciated.
Thanks,
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If she is working or doing other full-time activities I guess you will be fine.
Sure 2 days a week is not a whole lot, but a lot more than other long distance relationship couples and if you think about it, you probably don't do a lot of cool stuff every day now, because you see each other so much. 5 days pass like nothing if you are busy and it makes the 2 weekend days so much more special.
Don't worry about going home a lot. We had a few guys too who tripped home every weekend. Sometimes we were miffed, because we wanted to go out together, but meh. We lived.
Thanks for the good advice. Any other experiences still welcomed
How long are you studying for? What is she planning to do after the gap year?
I knew a few people who went home each weekend so you are unlikely to be the only one, but it wasn't common <-- but I think that depends on who you live with and how far away they live from uni, whether they have bf/gf at home etc.
Have you thought about the possibility that you may meet someone else at every point in life, like out and about on Friday evening? If you are happy with your current partner and relationship I don't think this is really a problem.
The man's (or woman's) gotta a point.