Help, please?

Former Member

Well I shall try and cut my story short.

I've been at college for a year now and for the last few months I've realised I quite like this guy whose become a good friend.

I first met him last september when I started drama and got to know him more as the year went on. He's become really good friends with most of my friends and he's just such a great guy.

I was a bit worried that over the summer I wouldn't hear from him, despite the fact he doesn't live that far away from me.

I've texted him a bit and he's replied - just a little later then I thought he would.

I've asked a few of my friends on what to do and they all say I should do different things which has left me a little confused to be quite honest.

So all I want to know is shall I risk everything and ask him out?

Or what should I do?



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Former Member

Are you a guy? Are you gay? Is he gay? Make sure of that first,... somehow. Not good with those things.

If you are a girl, yea just ask him out. nothing ventured nothing gained. Just be casual and don't be expecting the world and you'd be fine whatever's the outcome.

Former Member

I'm presumming your female, no offence if your not, if so, try dropping subtle hints that you do like him, if he gets them (i've been an idiot and missed these) and likes you he should pluck up the balls to ask you out and if its the reverse then he'll try and put a bit of distance between you thus saving you the embrassment of a rejection

As a guy, i personally wouldn't mind being asked out by a girl if i liked them, if not then i would be a bit unsure on how to let them down but all the same i have no problem with it, but i know alot of guys that would be freaked out by that situation and freeze up and ruin it with the girl if they did like them

Former Member

I'm a girl for a start :impissed:
But thanks for the advice.
I shall give it a go and let you know how it goes.

Thanks :thumb:

Former Member

good luck

Former Member

Boys are dumb, so the chances are you're going to either have to drop less-than-subtle hints or come out straight and ask him. Do you suspect he likes you? If you're not sure, then maybe asking him straight out might be a bit full-on.

To be honest, I wasn't sure that people "asked each other out" any more. What's wrong the ol' tried and tested method of spending weeks circling round each other, eventually getting really drunk and making with the awkward fumbles, then presuming you're together?

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CptCoatHanger wrote: »

Boys are dumb, so the chances are you're going to either have to drop less-than-subtle hints

What's wrong the ol' tried and tested method of spending weeks circling round each other, eventually getting really drunk and making with the awkward fumbles, then presuming you're together?

I think i am living proof for the first bit

and Cpt, thats exactly what my mates been like for the past 2 out of 2 relationships he's had (he now thinks he's got more experience than me because he's a dick )

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CptCoatHanger wrote: »

Boys are dumb, so the chances are you're going to either have to drop less-than-subtle hints or come out straight and ask him. Do you suspect he likes you? If you're not sure, then maybe asking him straight out might be a bit full-on.

:yes: Definitely agree. You may have to make it a bit more obvious, even though it may feel embarrassing - in my experience hints and subtlety really don't tend to work on guys. Sometimes, even offering a guy a late-night slightly drunken rendez-vous on a beach while wearing your hottest outfit doesn't work

Former Member

I'm gonna echo what's already been said. Blokes don't do subtle.