female sex drive loss, help.

Former Member

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**helen**

*hugs*

Didn't see your original post, but just wanted to reassure you that it's really not uncommon and I'm sure lots of people will be able to offer some support if you tell us a bit more about your situation...

Former Member

I did see the original post but didn't have time to reply earlier - I'm sorry you didn't feel you could leave it up as I thought you were brave for being so honest about how you're feeling and asking for help. There were obviously other issues around the main problem (lack of sex drive) and I was going to suggest you speak to a doctor or counsellor as a start, I'm sure lots of people here would have been able to give better advice than me though. I hope you feel able to re-post at some point as it's obviously something that's really troubling you and this is a supportive, friendly environment where I'm sure you would have been offered some constructive opinions.

Hope you're OK

Former Member

hope you're ok nice xx

Former Member

Sorry you didn't get any advice before you took the post down.

HUGS

Former Member

i did originally try and post it under my more anonymous user name and it didn't work then i kind of bottled it.


i can't seem to retrieve the deleted post. Basically my original post was just talking about how my sex drive had disapeared and i know it is due to the fact that i feel so low about myself coz of my appearence and weight.

i have been to my doctor to discuss my weight and self esteem and the buck was sort of passed to discussing it with my psychologist which didnt help at all really. Doctors generally say stuff like " eat less and exercise more" which i know already, but its general motivation to do this which is the problem being as food is the only real comfort i have. i dont feel like i can socialise or go out with his mates and stuff coz i just feel so ugly and repulsive. sex is completely off the menu unless i force myself coz i just feel so unattractive. you would think the fact that i could lose the best thing that ever happened me, that i dont ever feel like leaving the house or socialising would be enough to make me get a grip on myself, but it isn't.

Former Member

What sort of things used to make you feel good about yourself? Were you in to any hobbies or anything?

Former Member

not really, not really a hobby sort of person being as i generally dont like leaving the house. i used to enjoy drinking with my friends but our lives have all moved on and i cant really be bothered with all that anymore.

the hours i work and how much i am hating my job right now mean by the time i get home i have little motivation to do anything except flop in front of the tv, eat my tea and generally try and forget my shit day.

i know the problem is motivating myself and unlocking the block in my head that prevents me from being able to do anything about my repulsiveness, i can fully understand how people get to a point where they eat themselves to death, or immobility.

Former Member

Well, I think you've realised that now would be a good time to turn things around, so that you don't end up going down that route. Have you ever been to a driving range, where you hire a golf club and a box of balls, imagine everything and everone that you don't like in your life at the moment and transfer theri image to the ball before you wack it as hard as you can as far as your can?

I can recommend it. And, it's not sitting watching TV with a TV dinner...