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Advice for a friend please -kinda urgent
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A close friend of mine is having some troubles with a girl. He really likes her and she knows that, but he is telling me that he has either to keep loving her and is able to speak to her or get over her and lose her. After him explaining a couple of times that he can't speak to her and get over her i still do not understand.
I think he should talk to her about it but i'm unsure saying this might help. Has anyone else got any ideas of what he could do? Both ways put him through pain (i quote from him just recently) and he wants my advice, but i don't know what to tell him.
Please give me some advice to give back to him, i would appreciate it (:
I think he should talk to her about it but i'm unsure saying this might help. Has anyone else got any ideas of what he could do? Both ways put him through pain (i quote from him just recently) and he wants my advice, but i don't know what to tell him.
Please give me some advice to give back to him, i would appreciate it (:
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:yes: that's what I took from it too :chin:
Is he scared to take a chance and risk getting hurt? I guess if we've understood correctly then lots of people would probably say that he's got nothing to lose by being open and honest with this girl... unless perhaps there's a friendship at stake?
If I've got it right, the only advice I can give is to be very blunt and choose. Either 'fess up and ask her out (you say she knows he's interested, so it's not like she'll be caught totally out of the blue), or keep quiet and deal with it, but either way, make a decision about how to move forward and stick to it.
Many of the people I've had intense crushes on in the past have become very good friends, for whom I have no romantic feelings at all anymore. If she's someone he admires, respects, and whose company he enjoys, he shouldn't cut her out of his life completely. Things will settle down, especially when the next crush comes along.
PS - If I've totally misunderstood the OP, ignore the above and accept my apologies!
Whatever. Pity the OP hasn't seen fit to shed any light.
I may be wrong however. Its just how I saw it.