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Being alone? probably better off.
BillieTheBot
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Just been wondering these past few days, I've been single about a year or so now..and I was thinking to myself is it beneficial to be alone? I mean you dont get hurt when your alone, i've been alright more or less
Anyone else feel like this? I don't wanna be alone forever but it seems less hassle and you dont get hurt even though there are upsides to a relationship.
Anyone else feel like this? I don't wanna be alone forever but it seems less hassle and you dont get hurt even though there are upsides to a relationship.
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But it is kinda boring, isn't it?
Yeah same, most of my friends have a significant other.
On reflection, my method of dealing with the loneliness seems to be to pick guys who though lovely, are generally less smart, emotionally unavailable or just tossers (and not lovely! these ones are charmers) and therefore ultimately doomed to fail in a relationship, without it being my fault. I get the hugs an the company for a short period of time, but no so long that I make myself vulnerable, or anyone gets hurt. A bit fucked up I guess, but hey ho.
You never know the right personal might be around the corner and you'll be glad you didn't get too hasty and jump in too early!
I'm in a relationship now and it's nice but sometimes I hate how lazy I've become.
However at present I wouldn't want to go back. I like this life and am working on the laziness.
I'd say that it's far better being single than making do with somebody who's not that attractive or nice. Stable people are good. :thumb:
Sure, there's plenty about the physical and emotional intimacy that amazing. But there's the flip side of all the benefits of being single too - I'm sure I'd miss things that the single life offers were I to be in a relationship. Still, I'm not arguing against relationships (God knows Madam Palm and I have lost the spark), just that to equate 'single' and 'alone' doesn't seem right to me.
No, singe certainly isn't alone. I think some people just naturally lean one way or the other, I have enjoyed my time being single in that I've sown my wild oats, learnt a bit more about myself and developed at an individual - I wouldn't have given that up for anything, and I'm not saying I wont want that again. But at the end of the day I'd rather have someone to cuddle me when I go up to bed than be able to sleep with whoever I want.
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Not really. I dunno, I miss all the emotianal intimacy, and being close to someone you adore. I miss sharing the kind of deep things you wouldn't even share with your best mate. I miss coming home from work to see the kind of nice, welcoming smile you don't find anywhere else. I even miss the agonising on what to arrange for an anniversary, what to get them, the rollercoaster emotions.... that kind of thing. I guess I'm just one of those people who needs an element of chaos in their lives. Single life isn't necesarilly lonely, it's just too safe for me, a bit dull, a bit too easy. if single life was a career, I'd retrain and do something else. But obviosuly it isn't quite that simple, eh?
Strange, but there ya go.
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I have been in a few relationships and they have all ended badly and have all been wondeful and stressul at the same time. I am alone at the moment but have been 'seeing' a friend of mine (mostly for sex and to have someone close) and have found that this is working really well for me. No paranoid relationship stuff and no awful stress. I still have companionship and both of us would be pleased if the other found someone else. But I know this doest work for everyone. I just know I dont want to be in a relationship for a long while =D
It can be fullfilling to be alone, so your life and personality doesnt bleed into someone elses. I am the happiest I have been in years ^^
And I suspect you were tipsy! :P
nope just very affectionate to strangers on internets
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Back on-topic... there is a big difference between being single, and being alone. Many people feel alone despite being in a relationship. Many people don't feel alone despite being single.
There's little good in having a relationship just for the sake of it. Physical and emotional intimacy tend to be something of a flop if you don't find the other person to be special. Generally nice and comforting at the time, but often more hassle than it's really worth.
It's often those relationships that take the most effort - because your heart just isn't in it. It makes for a lot of work for something you're not desperately longing for.