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I've been living in France for the past 4 months working as an au pair. I've got two months left here, but it's only really just come out of the woodworks that the little boy I'm looking after is being bullied at school.
It's their first day back after the school holidays here, and he came home for lunch in such a bad mood and hitting me on the bum and throwing things, and then I asked for a cuddle and he went all clingy and had a cry. (He's 4 btw).
During the holidays I was asking him and his sister (who is 3) about school, the little girl loves it, and he said he didn't like it because his 'friends' hit him etc etc... I asked him if he tells the teacher when it happens and he said he does and she tells them off, but he doesn't like her because he gets in trouble for shouting in class.
I asked him if he hits the other kids too, and he said he does because his daddy has told him to defend himself and if someone hits him to hit them back (thanks a lot Dad)... Don't really know how to tackle this problem.
He'd been behaving really really well all day until we had this chat and then he immediatly started being violent and throwing things around and had to go and have a run outside.
I want to try and keep him calm at home, but it's difficult after/before school because he's obviously wound up... But I know he can behave because he was lovely during the holidays. And I want to be able to help with the situation but I don't really know what I can do.
Any advice?
It's their first day back after the school holidays here, and he came home for lunch in such a bad mood and hitting me on the bum and throwing things, and then I asked for a cuddle and he went all clingy and had a cry. (He's 4 btw).
During the holidays I was asking him and his sister (who is 3) about school, the little girl loves it, and he said he didn't like it because his 'friends' hit him etc etc... I asked him if he tells the teacher when it happens and he said he does and she tells them off, but he doesn't like her because he gets in trouble for shouting in class.
I asked him if he hits the other kids too, and he said he does because his daddy has told him to defend himself and if someone hits him to hit them back (thanks a lot Dad)... Don't really know how to tackle this problem.
He'd been behaving really really well all day until we had this chat and then he immediatly started being violent and throwing things around and had to go and have a run outside.
I want to try and keep him calm at home, but it's difficult after/before school because he's obviously wound up... But I know he can behave because he was lovely during the holidays. And I want to be able to help with the situation but I don't really know what I can do.
Any advice?
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I don't know. I never had an au pair, so it may be that they do expect you to become involved with such things?