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Got myself in a mess again...
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... and I don't know how to get out of it!
Basically, one night I met a guy. He was cute and we swapped numbers (I should mention now I was sober, but not in a good place mentally). He tried to get me to go back to his, but I declined.
A week or so later, he text me again, saying he was lonely and was I around (he said he sent it to loads of friends though, but not sure if that's true). I went over to his and one thing led to another and we had sex. I barely knew this guy (i.e one 10 minute meeting and a few texts), and I am not normally the sort of person to do that (I think it's because I was/am feeling so crap at the moment- I didn't care).In fact I think I kind of liked the fact it seemed like someone was appreciating me if that makes sense?
Anyway, back to the point, now he keeps texting saying I should come over- the thing is he only texts in the evenings/early mornings, and I know why- I'm not stupid! Early morning texts are fine- I can say I was asleep and not reply until the following day. At night though I am running out of excuses not to go. Part of me wants to go, but I can see this is not the best thing to do. I am in enough of a mess as it is.
How do I get out of this situation guys? I think I want to just leave it as a one-night thing we had to avoid future difficulties/until I sort out my head (which will take a long time).
Basically, one night I met a guy. He was cute and we swapped numbers (I should mention now I was sober, but not in a good place mentally). He tried to get me to go back to his, but I declined.
A week or so later, he text me again, saying he was lonely and was I around (he said he sent it to loads of friends though, but not sure if that's true). I went over to his and one thing led to another and we had sex. I barely knew this guy (i.e one 10 minute meeting and a few texts), and I am not normally the sort of person to do that (I think it's because I was/am feeling so crap at the moment- I didn't care).In fact I think I kind of liked the fact it seemed like someone was appreciating me if that makes sense?
Anyway, back to the point, now he keeps texting saying I should come over- the thing is he only texts in the evenings/early mornings, and I know why- I'm not stupid! Early morning texts are fine- I can say I was asleep and not reply until the following day. At night though I am running out of excuses not to go. Part of me wants to go, but I can see this is not the best thing to do. I am in enough of a mess as it is.
How do I get out of this situation guys? I think I want to just leave it as a one-night thing we had to avoid future difficulties/until I sort out my head (which will take a long time).
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yeah i dont see why not. it's not as if you are dating and he's propositioning you in a text right? you dont have to delete him from fb unless you really want to. are you gonna genuinely miss his presence in your life? might sound harsh but dont waste your time worrying about what people think of you unless you really and truly value their opinion.
Thank you
different advice- this is what I want to do. Just I don't want to seem harsh, lol. Maybe I should just be a tad practical for once instead of always being nice!
If they carry on texting after you have ignored them for a few texts, just reply with "no thanks, I've found someone else"
edit: didn't read Katralla's advice before posting, yet it is the same as what I half-decided! Guess that's how it will be!
If he can text you for a nookie, you can text him that you don't want this to go on.