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Is it weird that I let my boyfriend stroke me down there? I just wish he did it more. He always fingers me, but I get really turned on when he rubs my clit. How can I let him know that? He went down on me for the first time the other day and he was using his fingers as well as his tongue. I was just lying there with my legs open under the covers and he went right by my feet and just pleasured me, it was amazing. But I felt ashamed. Unladylike.. Is this normal?
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You will almost certainly need to help him discover how best to give you pleasure - he isn't a mind reader, and doesn't have one of his own to practice with (although they all work a bit differently, so that wouldn't be a perfect solution)
When I know he's enjoying sex, I get pleasure.
He wont think any less of you if he does know
He probably assumes you do, but then I dont know your man. Theyre all different
show him
God, if I didn't give him an indication of when to stop, my boyfriend would spend all day down there. Fortunately for him I get massively sensitive when I'm done so I go all squirmy and he knows he can stop.
Just tell him. Communication is the best thing here.
if he is then that isn't right! He should love touching you not get bored, make him pleasure you otherwise he shouldn't get any himself!
xx
Only if he watches you like Ceiling Cat does...
Clicky
There's no need to worry about it. You have the great advantage of being young. Most people hope that their current bf will be THE ONE, but you'll probably have other bfs. Just because you don't orgasm during sex with this one, doesn't mean you never will and, as you become more experienced - even with this bf - you may find that it happens naturally. No, as someone said earlier, it isn't necessarily the goal of sex to have an orgasm, but it sure makes it more satisfactory.