Too quick... :/

Former Member

Hey, I sort of get embarassed talking about this, but I do need some more opinions on what to do...

I've been with my gf about 5 months now, but I don't last very long during sex. Maybe an average of about 5 minutes, a maximum of 10... More often than not, if I'm not completely physically knackered I would finish her off. Although she says she is fine with it, its obvious she is not.

The difference is, I never used to be that quick. I split up with my most recent ex about 18 months ago and I used to last on average at least an hour.

I've tried masturbating before and I've tried thinking of other things during sex, but nothing has worked.

I don't know whether it is a good thing that I climax quicker with my gf than with my ex's or not, because I know it does mean that I am more attracted to her (which I do know to be true ) but on the other hand, I always feel bad that I can never be as good as I have been before.

Anyone help at all?

Thanks

Former Member

Everyone's different but, personally, an hour would have been too much for me, even in my youth - I'd get kinda sore (or bored) lol. Even so, without knowing your age, but assuming that you are in your prime, 5-10 minutes does seem a bit quick. My OH is, presumably, a lot older than you, but also suffers from this. At our age, I don't think there is anything unusual about it, and we don't particularly feel the need to resort to Viagra.

The problem really is that once you climax, it is probably almost impossible to get your gf to orgasm. What we do is to compensate by my OH making me come either orally or using his hands/fingers before entering me himself. That way, I am already excited, so he can be quite rough if he wants to, and if he doesn't last very long, it doesn't matter. It's still good.

Former Member

Abdominal and PC muscle exercises, any exercise for that matter

Former Member

You're only as good as your tongue, stop worrying about it.

Former Member

Time is not generally the best indicator of how much fun she's having in bed. Trust me, 5-10 minutes of good sex is massively preferable to an hour spent pumping away, bored shitless and getting gradually more sore :thumb:

You have other appendages. Use them! Then tack your 5-10 minutes on the end as your grand finale, rather than the be-all and end-all.

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Olive wrote: »

Time is not generally the best indicator of how much fun she's having in bed. Trust me, 5-10 minutes of good sex is massively preferable to an hour spent pumping away, bored shitless and getting gradually more sore :thumb:

You have other appendages. Use them! Then tack your 5-10 minutes on the end as your grand finale, rather than the be-all and end-all.

I wholeheartedly agree! I'm a lot quicker than 5 - 10 minutes, but I do spend a lot of time making sure the OH is good to go, and even afterwards when I'm slightly embarrased, she still tells me it was amazing, and hasn't gone off me yet.

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katralla wrote: »

You're only as good as your tongue, stop worrying about it.

ROFL yet so true.