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My boyfriend wants a threesome
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my boyfriend wants us 2 have a 3 some, i am unsure as i think i will be jealous and worried he will enjoy the other girl more etc, anybody please help
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I've made a new thread from your post as it was on the end of a thread from 2006. You should find you get more replies this way.
You might want to have a look at this article on threesomes too
In your case id say dont do it
If he ultimately tires to pressure you then he's not worth your time either...
I agree with this completely.
If you don't want to do it then don't. Forcing yourself to to make him happy will make you despise him and obviously the jealousy as you mentioned will be a huge issue. It will be downhill from there.
Suggest to him a threesome with another man. He'll maybe find that he feels the same way as you do, it might make him understand from your view point.
he has suggest to have to seperate 3somes 1 with him myself and another female and another with him myself and another male.
It is an interesting form of compromise, but if you feel uncomfortable with it, then dont go ahead with it just because it would make him happy.
I don't think that's the case - as long as the wants on both sides are generally met then a single issue isn't likely to cause it.
I bet you he's thinking of mff & mfm though, so not entirely equal, if you're heterosexual.
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And tell him you want a mmf or a mfm first before you have a fmf. That might question his commitment.
I don't think I've fully understood the nuances of threesomes!
Do I visualise mmf, mfm fmf like a picture? A sort of grammatical sex train?
Thats what i thought, surely theres no difference between mmf or mfm, unless it just depends on whether the guys get involved with each other or not?
mmf I imagine a dude doing a dude while he does a girl.
mfm I imagine a rather full girl.
Haha, I'm so glad you asked this - I was thinking I must be terribly naive or vanilla for having no idea how mmf might be different from mfm, when everyone else seemed to know exactly what this might refer to!
So is mfm just basically a spitroast? :chin:
If they'd said 'spitroast' from the off, I'd have been much less confused!
I'm probably reading too much into this, but does mmf indicate than one guy is only going to be doing the other guy, who in turn only does the girl? I can't imagine that's it! Or does mmf mean a complete free for all?
Well then don't do it. Simple as.
This is all a very petty way of talking about it i think, just decide how many of each you're going to have and get on with it and do who or what you want!
To the OP: you clearly have issues with doing it so my advice would be to not uless you are 100% happy
It simply means a free-for-all. or 'Royal Rumble' for any old WWF fans.
I don't think there is a method for indicating the two different two scenarios
I'm not sure what's petty about it. My point was, and is, that a threesome where all three do stuff with each other is not the same as one where the two who are of the same gender don't do stuff with each other; certainly if you're heterosexual. So, the OP said that her boyfriend has offered a threesome with another guy, as a compromise. If this simpy includes a 'spit roasting' (ugh, vulgar term) then it's not the same as if she's expected to each out some other girl or something. Thus, if that's what he has in mind, it's not an even compromise.
I disagree with you when you generalise about what all other women want.
You say no. Quite simply it's not an option.
Really? I must have been dreaming those days in my past then...
Sleep easy
Haha I saw this...did make me 'lol' alot