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Hey.
I wasn't sure if this belonged in sex or in health but I just wondered if any one hasd experience of sex therapy? I have problems reaching orgasm, I've only had one everst in my whole life. I think it's due to a history of abuse and because I'm on so much medication for my mental health problems. So I saw the doctor on Friday at the (regular) therapy unit I attend and she said they can refer me for sex therapy at a clinic so I said yes to that and also they are reducing my meds to see if that helps. I think it has a really long waiting list though which is a bit annoying but I'm glad we have it at all in this part of the country as apparently not everywhere does.
I wasn't sure if this belonged in sex or in health but I just wondered if any one hasd experience of sex therapy? I have problems reaching orgasm, I've only had one everst in my whole life. I think it's due to a history of abuse and because I'm on so much medication for my mental health problems. So I saw the doctor on Friday at the (regular) therapy unit I attend and she said they can refer me for sex therapy at a clinic so I said yes to that and also they are reducing my meds to see if that helps. I think it has a really long waiting list though which is a bit annoying but I'm glad we have it at all in this part of the country as apparently not everywhere does.
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Are you trying to orgasm on your own, with a partner or both? There are a few self help books out there that might be worth a try while you're on the waiting list.
It's great you're getting lots of support, well done for taking advantage of it!!
The BBC Relationships page on sex therapy has some information about what happens in a session - and looks like there are some useful links to follow as well.
There's also some good tips and ideas on this netdoctor link on reaching orgasm alone which, as Katralla says, might be something you want to try while you are on the waiting list.
I posted in this forum about 2.5 years with no sex drive. NO one has responded with any help.
I have been to every type of doctor and therapist you can think of.
The sex therapist didn't do much.
They tell you a bunch of stuff you already know, or can read up on, on the internet, then charge you 120 dollars an hour/insurance doesn't cover.. and tell you to go work on stuff at home, in your own time, til your next meeting..in which they screw you again for money.
If you look up HSDD on the internet, hyposexual desire disorder, it'll tell you info on your issue, the same info your sex therapist will tell you. They will give you techniques such as:
look in the mirror and find sexually appealing things about yourself
list things, that may turn you on sexually
tell you to watch internet porn daily to hopefully generate sexual thinking
masturbate
etc...
its a waste of money and time. IN MY OPINION, any type of 'therapy', is verbal 'bs' someone tells you about some bs they learned in a text book or was told in a classroom.
trust me, you can find all the info on HSDD/your situation, online, or in a book---and i am not the author, nor do i benefit from you buying the book-i'm not advocating it or anything, don't buy it for all i care---but nonetheless- there's a book called: Hypoactive sexual desire by gerald r. weeks.
in that book it'll tell you, anything and everything that any sex-therapist would tell you
in my opinion
the tiger
The medication I am on now, my erections are way better, but it takes me forever to come. Sometimes it's good if you want a nice long sex session, but usually the girl just wants me to pound her and get it done with, or she gives me a handjob or a blowjob and it gets really embarrassing for me when after several minutes I still don't feel like I can come and she is no doubt getting super tired.
Also, when I finally do come, sometimes it gives no sensation at all. Usually it's the ultimate pleasure, but on these pills it doesn't feel good at all. I feel the come come out and it's like... whatever. Not good.
Unfortunately I have to take these pills, but I just thought I should let you know that I have quite a lot of experience of these kinds of medications and most of them really tamper with your love life. Best thing you can do is see your doctor about it and see if there are solutions. Sometimes going to an increased dose can actually reduce the side effects, strangely. And sometimes there is another drug that will counteract the first drug.
Good luck, and don't take it personally, it's not you it's the meds! Also if possible, tell your partner because it's probably best that they know they aren't doing it wrong. They may appreciate it and see it as a challenge that they have to beat!
fear of intimacy=no bf=no sex therapy= fear of intimacy. even i can work that out. thanks love!
time to utilise the new *hug*