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Am I wrong?. The Mother In Law
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Hi there,
ok so for anyone who may of read any of my previous posts, I have made the change and have split up with my boyfriend. We continue to share the house at the moment though, as I agreed to help him out over the winter months as his mother is here to stay until perhaps March..she has an open ticket and is inbetween my house and his sisters. - that is help him out by staying in the 3 bed house, paying my 1/2 of the rent, so she has her own bedroom.. she is 72..not old, but put it this way, i´ve seen 82 year olds in better shape.
Anyways, so when his sister came over and they dropped her off she dropped it into the conversation that I would be able to do her hair for her...She didnt ask me if i minded! As i am a fairly laid back soul, i said nothing, but shot her boyfriend a bit of a look, which he responded to as if to say " you what!!??" ... at least he realised it was cheeky.. so, i´ve done her hair (blowdried) it for her a few mornings now, but resent doing it !!! I was really busy yesterday running around trying to get out of the door when my ex said to me "can you do my mum´s hair... " whilst his mum is giving me a ridiculous soppy look, and so i fired back that i was busy etc, that he would have to learn to do it.. but in the end did it, a rushed job, by which time i was storming.... he said to me "are you gonna leave it like that!!??" . it was fine, but just not as coiffed as she might normally have it .. to which i snapped " well if you dont like it you can f-ing well do it next time..." .. must add her that my period is due any day!
So now i am battling with my emotions and thoughts.. I was so annoyed last night that i hardly slept and that is not healthy!!! I dont´see why I should have to do her bloody hair every day, now that we aren´t together!!! It winds me up that she cant do it.. (she does nothing around the house, not even pick up a plate from the table) and surely,staying on in the house is my part of the deal which is all i should have to stick to..?
Trouble is she will be back again next week, and i am battling with my telling him how i see it is vs keeping the ´peace´for the sake of her, her stay etc, but i know that this is a) gonna drive me nuts and b) make me into a nervous wreck and is not being true to myself. But by saying something i then become the proverbial cow.
Any advice purleeaase?? Thanks.
p.s i am not a witch!! If i saw that she was needy I have all the time in the world for someone.. to me, she is being downright lazy!!!
ok so for anyone who may of read any of my previous posts, I have made the change and have split up with my boyfriend. We continue to share the house at the moment though, as I agreed to help him out over the winter months as his mother is here to stay until perhaps March..she has an open ticket and is inbetween my house and his sisters. - that is help him out by staying in the 3 bed house, paying my 1/2 of the rent, so she has her own bedroom.. she is 72..not old, but put it this way, i´ve seen 82 year olds in better shape.
Anyways, so when his sister came over and they dropped her off she dropped it into the conversation that I would be able to do her hair for her...She didnt ask me if i minded! As i am a fairly laid back soul, i said nothing, but shot her boyfriend a bit of a look, which he responded to as if to say " you what!!??" ... at least he realised it was cheeky.. so, i´ve done her hair (blowdried) it for her a few mornings now, but resent doing it !!! I was really busy yesterday running around trying to get out of the door when my ex said to me "can you do my mum´s hair... " whilst his mum is giving me a ridiculous soppy look, and so i fired back that i was busy etc, that he would have to learn to do it.. but in the end did it, a rushed job, by which time i was storming.... he said to me "are you gonna leave it like that!!??" . it was fine, but just not as coiffed as she might normally have it .. to which i snapped " well if you dont like it you can f-ing well do it next time..." .. must add her that my period is due any day!
So now i am battling with my emotions and thoughts.. I was so annoyed last night that i hardly slept and that is not healthy!!! I dont´see why I should have to do her bloody hair every day, now that we aren´t together!!! It winds me up that she cant do it.. (she does nothing around the house, not even pick up a plate from the table) and surely,staying on in the house is my part of the deal which is all i should have to stick to..?
Trouble is she will be back again next week, and i am battling with my telling him how i see it is vs keeping the ´peace´for the sake of her, her stay etc, but i know that this is a) gonna drive me nuts and b) make me into a nervous wreck and is not being true to myself. But by saying something i then become the proverbial cow.
Any advice purleeaase?? Thanks.
p.s i am not a witch!! If i saw that she was needy I have all the time in the world for someone.. to me, she is being downright lazy!!!
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i know that.. I am moving out on Feb 1st, have found a flat.. but that´s not my problem at the mo, i am focused.. i need to know what to do re the hair!!! Thanks for replying x