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anal sex??
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i really fancey tring to have anal sex but dont know how to ask my boyfriend if he fance's trying it??
also i heard it can really hurt is this true??
also i heard it can really hurt is this true??
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ermm, thats really offence. You dont have to be gay to have anal sex
And i've heard it extremely painful, but the people i knew never use lubrication or anything.....just bring it up in conversation to see how he feels about it.
As for asking....
Get a bottle of Sliquid Ride Gold, and say "I hear this is great for anal sex"?
Typical of a one-post cunt.
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Done with patience and lots of lube, it should be more uncomfortable than painful on an first attempt - unless the penis is pretty large.
Why not get into a conversation with him about what he may or may not ever want to try in sex (e.g watersports, bondage, roleplay, toys etc).
Then ask :
You : "Would you ever consider anal sex toys?"
Him : "Ew! No! Would you?"
You : "Um .. yeah .... maybe."
Him : "Yay! I've been dying to suggest it but I didn't know how to bring it up!"
There is plenty of good material on girls and successful anal sex if you Google it. Basic rules are take it very slowly, use lots of lube and don't move from brown to pink.
That's assuming that anal is a 'wrong hole'. You could say the same for oral then. Consider anal as an EXTRA hole rather than a WRONG hole.
But yes, there are germs that you don't want to pass from one orifice to another without a good clean inbetween although wearing a condom would reduce this risk anyway.
Do you mean changing your condom inbetween?
Well, I don't have any experience moving from brown to pink myself but I would imagine that would make sense, wouldn't it? I bow to anyone else's more informed opinion.
heya,
ive never wanted to try this with my boyfriend but just be careful as there is a big blood vessel in a woman's anus n it can burst so if u do want to it...just be careful n make sure lots of lube used.
i know what you mean about the embarrassing thing
Yup you shouldnt.
Women have enough trouble catching urine infections cos of how close everything is and bacteria from back there getting in, so having something prodding it in even further is not gonna help, and you'll almost definately get a urine infection.
Either wear a condom and change it, put a condom on for one or the other or go wash before you change holes.
im really intrigued by peoples reactions to anal sex
in my oppinion i love to explore new stuff and for this you shud defantaly try it but make sure u use loads of lube why dnt you invest in a buttplug insert this while having sex just so it opens your anal a little bit then just take it slow with your partner
you shud just talk to him about it and im sure he will be up for it if you give him something in return lol
so give it a try and for people who say it hurts they arnt doing it right make sure u change condoms and clean before carrying on will make it much safer
have fun exploring x
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Sort your piles out then.
I agree that she is wrong to assume that all anal sex is painful, but it's understandable why she does, so go easy on her.
Also, "Dude. Post. Dead." - Turtle.
And her other posts still belligerently assume anal sex is horrific for everybody. So I'll stick with what I posted, thank you.
Offensive? Really?
She might be wrong, but I can't see why anyone would find it offensive. I quite like it up the wrong'un every now and then, but I can't say I'm offended by her post.
I think a bit of understanding of where she is coming from is called for, that's all.
Fair enough. I was assuming you hadn't read her previous posts and that's why your response was flippant. But if you have, and still think that's a reasonable response, then that's your call. But personally, I'm inclined towards being a bit more understanding and sympathetic. You can correct her mistake without being unpleasant about it.
Being anally raped would do that to someone.
Too suggest that "piles" might be the problem is offensive in that context, wouldn't you say?
I agree. And I apologise to Dragonelle for that 'suggestion'. I'm sorry.
:thumb:
I'd find it offensive if my preferred form of love-making was similarly critisized, even if bad experiences have been had of it. As I said, I'm pretty sure I've been through what she has, but I'm not going to badmouth every bad experience I've had of everything. It's narrow minded.
Although I speak as the botter, not the bottee :nervous:
Even better if you find a woman who loves it as much as vaginal...
It is fun though