do i end it now?

Former Member

I posted before about my friend with benefits. I am very confused over wht to do about it.
He is always saying things like..i'm not in love with you..which is good, because i'm married and not leaving my husband. He says things like you'll find someone in your part of town...then he tells me how much fun he has with me and how he really likes being with me the few hours a week we hook up.
He generally says these things when he has been drinking. We have always been open and honest with each other, and I have asked him before if he wanted to end it, he said no.
He has ED, and I am unable to satisfy him. He says it's not me, but I am wondering if it is. The cialis he takes doesn't work when I am there, and oral isn't working either. Is it me?
I think I should ask him again about ending it when I see him fri morning, but really, I am afraid of the answer.
Should I go ahead and just end it myself, tho I don't really want to, or ask and see wht happens?
It's all I've been able to think about lately and its driving me nuts.

I need some advice!!!

Former Member

i cant see much point to it tbh

Former Member

SuzyCreamcheese wrote: »

i cant see much point to it tbh

in my heart, i know this is a pointless situation. the problem is that when i am with him, i don't think about my problems, my finances, my spouse's illness, i just laugh and have fun.
I think that is wht i am afraid of losing, not necessarily him.

Former Member

whats your spouses illness?

Former Member

he has arthritis in his spine. he gets around, does the outside work, housework, he just has to move at his own pace. he can't work, but he is sexually active. i lost my passion for him many many years ago, but i still love him, and i won't leave him.
i just need more.

Former Member

hes sexually active with other people?

Former Member

no, just with me. this friend with benefit thing is the first time i have ever cheated on anyone, in my life. i guess that's why i'm so conflicted about the whole thing. it took me a month to decide i would do it, and i don't believe i would do it again with anyone else. maybe that's part of my conflict.
i just know it's a happy zone for me. sex doesn't happen all the time, once a week, maybe.
and i really don't know what to do.