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Alritey,
Right straight to it. On my placement last year on a night out, met this girl who was the girlfriend of one of the people we were out with. Just said hello and the usual stuff really, think i was too busy getting bladdered at the time.
Anyway, so she adds me on facebook (she's the type to add everyone she meets on facebook) and msn. So over the year we chat away and get on with each other, she starts to have problems with her bf and talks to me about it. Nothing wrong there i guess, think she just found it easier to talk to me about it as i'm someone outside of her main friendship group.
At this stage, im not really thinking about her in that way tbh. Only met her once and didnt think it was right to try my luck when she was all over the place. We've chatted on the phone quite abit and got to know each other a little bit but still thought it would be abit weird.
Anyway, so month ago(?) we met up just for a drink and chat and it was great! Shes a great girl, good looking, funny etc all the things i like in a girl and one major thing was, it wasnt awkward, just chatted away like we'd known each other for years. But things were still rocky with her bf, well they had basically broken up, so again kinda just happy to meet up and get to know her abit more as mates.
We carry on speaking on the phone, texting etc. She did say that theres noone whos interested in her who she likes atm .. but did say that she doesnt know of all the people whos interested in her yet... really dont know if thats a hint or not, hmmmm.
Week or so later shes on a night out (back home from uni for the weekend), she loses her house key and her best mate pulls and goes home with some lad, apparently. So she asks if she could stay at mine as she had nowhere else to go. I said yes, just as somewhere for her to stay, but seeing that she doesnt really know me that well i thought it was a little odd! She did say i was the last resort, as her ex said no.
Anyway yeah so she stays over, says she stayed at mine because she trusts me and basically she broke up with her bf, properly, that night. So alot of tears from her so i was more of the shoulder to cry on really.
Since then, we've still talked alot etc. I think shes struggling abit with the break up tbh but i really dunno how to approach it now. I mean i do like her and would love to get to know her more, but i dont wanna come out and say ohhhh i really like you etc right now as its just gonna look like i was waiting for her to be single to do it. Would just be bad timing in my eyes.
But then i've done this before and it ended up not going anywhere because i said nothing and the girl thought i wasnt interested when i was!!
Also she's ridiculously hard to read, not sure if she just see's be as a mate or if she likes me in that way.
Tough one to call really, i don't wanna ruin being mates if she doesnt see me that way but then i dont know how to approach it if she does see me that way!
Any words of wisdom?
Right straight to it. On my placement last year on a night out, met this girl who was the girlfriend of one of the people we were out with. Just said hello and the usual stuff really, think i was too busy getting bladdered at the time.
Anyway, so she adds me on facebook (she's the type to add everyone she meets on facebook) and msn. So over the year we chat away and get on with each other, she starts to have problems with her bf and talks to me about it. Nothing wrong there i guess, think she just found it easier to talk to me about it as i'm someone outside of her main friendship group.
At this stage, im not really thinking about her in that way tbh. Only met her once and didnt think it was right to try my luck when she was all over the place. We've chatted on the phone quite abit and got to know each other a little bit but still thought it would be abit weird.
Anyway, so month ago(?) we met up just for a drink and chat and it was great! Shes a great girl, good looking, funny etc all the things i like in a girl and one major thing was, it wasnt awkward, just chatted away like we'd known each other for years. But things were still rocky with her bf, well they had basically broken up, so again kinda just happy to meet up and get to know her abit more as mates.
We carry on speaking on the phone, texting etc. She did say that theres noone whos interested in her who she likes atm .. but did say that she doesnt know of all the people whos interested in her yet... really dont know if thats a hint or not, hmmmm.
Week or so later shes on a night out (back home from uni for the weekend), she loses her house key and her best mate pulls and goes home with some lad, apparently. So she asks if she could stay at mine as she had nowhere else to go. I said yes, just as somewhere for her to stay, but seeing that she doesnt really know me that well i thought it was a little odd! She did say i was the last resort, as her ex said no.
Anyway yeah so she stays over, says she stayed at mine because she trusts me and basically she broke up with her bf, properly, that night. So alot of tears from her so i was more of the shoulder to cry on really.
Since then, we've still talked alot etc. I think shes struggling abit with the break up tbh but i really dunno how to approach it now. I mean i do like her and would love to get to know her more, but i dont wanna come out and say ohhhh i really like you etc right now as its just gonna look like i was waiting for her to be single to do it. Would just be bad timing in my eyes.
But then i've done this before and it ended up not going anywhere because i said nothing and the girl thought i wasnt interested when i was!!
Also she's ridiculously hard to read, not sure if she just see's be as a mate or if she likes me in that way.
Tough one to call really, i don't wanna ruin being mates if she doesnt see me that way but then i dont know how to approach it if she does see me that way!
Any words of wisdom?
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And as you dont want to ruin the friendship, if she turn you down make sure she knows that you still want to remain good friends with no awkwardness.
Good luck!
Are you both flirty when you talk? or is just matey banter?
Dont be too forward when you are with her, dont make her feel uncomfy. She probs needs you as a friend, as a girl who has been in her shoes, it is pretty heavy at the end of a relationship and someone you think is a close trusted friend tells you they like like you. But then again, when this happened to me I was very distressed but talked to my friend and we have managed to get back to normal now, but it took like 2/3 months of feeling awkward on my part and torn up over my BF. Pretty sucky.
Not necessarily. When I was with my ex I had a friend who I liked and everytime we had a row I'd go crying to him bout it