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my wife hates my mum...
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My wife hates my mum and has told me she wants nothing to do with her, she dont want me seeing her, or our son to have any contact with her at all.
I cant obide by this but she wants me to choose as she cant stand by and allow our son to see her, but im not going to stop seeing my mum and i think itll break us up...
To top it all off, her mums living with us while my wife looks for work, i understood once she finds work we put him in nursery but now she says she wants her mum to stay looking after him and that lead to a row, i dont wanna live with her mum...
Im in a fucking horrible situation.:shocking:
I cant obide by this but she wants me to choose as she cant stand by and allow our son to see her, but im not going to stop seeing my mum and i think itll break us up...
To top it all off, her mums living with us while my wife looks for work, i understood once she finds work we put him in nursery but now she says she wants her mum to stay looking after him and that lead to a row, i dont wanna live with her mum...
Im in a fucking horrible situation.:shocking:
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btw, my boys one next week
Try sitting down with her and telling her how YOU feel and what YOU want.
but i wont let her bully me into it so i will be telling her as much, come what may...
If she wont listen to your side write a letter explaining everything and get out the house with your son for a few hours. That way she can't confront you and completely ignore the letter.
I think the question here is whether this is a reasonable request to not want anything to do with your mum. I can understand that you're being put in a bad place, it's tough landing between two mad women that don't like one another. I think you two need to find a way to talk and listen to each other. I wouldn't be dating my bloke today if he wasn't willing to try to understand why I don't like his mum and I have tried my best to understand that he feels the need to keep some contact, especially as he has a daughter from a previous relationship that he thinks should make her own decision whether to stay in touch with her grandmother.
Where does your mum stand in this? How does she treat or talk about your wife? You're the only one who can protect your wife from your own mother.
I also understand completely that you don't want to live with her mum!
It's a tough one, but family is forever, you can always get a new wife. Besides, unless your mum is horrible (which I doubt since she must love you bc she's your mum) then your wife is unjustified and RIDICULOUSLY selfish. Dump her.
You get horrible manipulative people in all walks of life, and some of these will be mothers of sons, and whilst the majority of daughter in law/mother in law relationships will be just fine, there will be some that are not - not in the slightest.
Its not NECESSARILY the daughter in law being some bitch here.
maybe it is, maybe it isnt. Its not like weve been given many details here.
i think whilst its important to keep family ties. there is also the fact that as a mature adult, a husband and a father, your bond should really be more with your wife and child than your mother.