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she's depressed
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My mum has depression but its being medicated. She recently insisted she come down on the dosage and is sad all the time. She was crying today - it would be the 3rd time i've ever seen her cry. I'm really worried shes going to do something or just get herself down and not come out of it. What would I do to help without her knowing i'm helping? She thinks shes ok but shes obviousy not! 
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It's tough especially if she thinks she is ok. But from experiance you know deep down you are not. It might take her some time to realise that she does need help, but it will come. All you can do (if she is not up for talking about it) is help in little ways, do stuff around the house, ask if she needs anything doing. You know what mums are like - she will probably know what you are doing but i'm sure she will be greatful.
Sound's like you are worried about your Mum at the moment and that it's been difficult to see her sad and crying. It's really good that you have posted about this and are seeking advice. You have been given some great responses, we just wanted to add a link to Thesite's page on supporting someone with a mental illness, there is a link on that page to the Depression Alliance which maybe of particular interest to you?
Take care and keep posting.
If you try and seek help the person in need will probably think that you are going behind their back, my missus thinks I am planning to have her locked up and what ever I am doing or whoever I have spoken to is just to slag her off and that everyone is saying bad things about her.
I think that if you can speak to your mums GP (with her consent) that would be great but at the same time you don't want to put thoughts in her head about going behind her back. Maybe next time she picks up her tablets you could go in the docs room with her?
I think that one of the most important things to remember is to stay calm and never show any frustration in front of her, ask her if she would like a chat but don't push her to speak, let her know you are there to speak to even if she just wants to vent her frustration (verbally).
These things will probably sound boring but they do help... go on a nice long walk, cook her some good grub, go to the cinema, have a girly night in (if your a girl) and do a bit of house work, make her feel appreciated and wanted and try to get her mind elsewhere.