If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Read the community guidelines before posting ✨
Options
How would you feel if...
Former Member
Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Just wanted opinions really...
How would you feel if your mate pulled your ex boyfriend/girlfriend?
Would you not be bothered because you don't want them anymore, so anyone can have 'em! Or would you consider it breaking a golden friendship rule; don't pull a mate's ex. Not sure what to clarify 'pulled' as, anything from kissing to sex I guess.
How would you feel if your mate pulled your ex boyfriend/girlfriend?
Would you not be bothered because you don't want them anymore, so anyone can have 'em! Or would you consider it breaking a golden friendship rule; don't pull a mate's ex. Not sure what to clarify 'pulled' as, anything from kissing to sex I guess.
0
Comments
I guess its one of those things that can depend entirely on the situation and the circumstances.
Yup. I think if the ex was just a short term thing/only a one night stand and not very important then it wouldnt matter so much. However, a long term relationship is a big no. I know i wouldnt appreciate it if any of my friends went out with any of my exes,
I'm not sure about the golden rule thing. If someone who fucks everything what moves would be on about my ex and I still like her (in a non-romantical way), I would be a bit pissed, but if a good friend of mine fell in love with her I'd tell him to go for it.
I'm in the process of falling in love with a good mate's ex and while I didn't talk to him about it, I think he SHOULD grant me that.
For arguments sake, would you you still feel that way if they got together 10 years after you had split up?
i would also be annoyed because my friend wud know how i felt about that person and her doing that would show to me she didnt really care about me or my feelings at all.
jesus bit of an overreaction mate!
I agree I wouldn't ever mess with a mate's ex, and I probably wouldn't stay friends with someone who messed with mine. Even if it was ten years later. I probably wouldn't care if it was a brief fling but a long term bf ex I don't think I'd ever be ok with it.
Honestly - you are NOT the person to be prattling on about rules. :yeees:
In my opinion it out of order,with so many women out there why go after a mates ex or he after yours?
I doubt Id stay friends with someone who did that to me.
Yeah, right. Until the next time.
You ever thought of having therapy ? You must have some serious anger issues.
:yes:
Although I do think generally 'pulling' between friends and exes should not happen.
your ex is not yours. the friend rule is silly, there's a reason they're your ex
if it happens, be happy for them