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Ok well this is kinda hard for me to say but it's been on my mind for a while now and I have no one else I wanna talk to it about so you guys will have to put up with me!
Basically, I like girls but I like guys too. ( I'm a girl btw )I've been denying it for a couple of years but I don't think I can anymore. It's not a teenage phase or anything like that, as it seems to be 'in' at the min with teenagers.
but the problem is I'm finding it kinda hard to 'accept' if that's the right word.
Ok so I've never been with a girl, but I have fancied them... And one I fancy quite a bit
I dunno, I'm kinda scared...
But basically i'm confused and don't really know what to think...does it sound like a phase?
Basically, I like girls but I like guys too. ( I'm a girl btw )I've been denying it for a couple of years but I don't think I can anymore. It's not a teenage phase or anything like that, as it seems to be 'in' at the min with teenagers.
but the problem is I'm finding it kinda hard to 'accept' if that's the right word.
Ok so I've never been with a girl, but I have fancied them... And one I fancy quite a bit
I dunno, I'm kinda scared...
But basically i'm confused and don't really know what to think...does it sound like a phase?
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I guess for some people, it may be a phase. We can develop feelings for the person, rather than the gender. But if you've liked more than one lass, then maybe that's just the way you're wired.
I'm Bi and I've known for a few years, havn't told anyone apart from my best friends tho. I guess it is hard to know and except who you are, I mean I had my heart set on being a gay man!! But just tell yourself that you are who you are.... and you are fine like that :-)
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I'm just finding it a bit hard to accept because if I'm honest I probably like girls more than guys. and in my group of friends that probably will change everything between me and them, so I don't want to tell anyone.
Its not that I've go anything against Bi or gay people it's just I'm finding to kinda hard to accept that I could be.
The main thing with the girl you fancy is to be realistic. Do you think she is gay / bi? Will you risk a friendship if you open up to her? It's hard to think about these things so clinically but it's important.
As for coming out, thats going to take a while i think. apart from on here . I've not really got my head around it. Maybe i just need to find myself a guy
I dont really wanna be like "oh by the way, I'm bi" even though that might work?
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Anyway, back on point. I'm not gay or bi so what I say might be wrong, but how you tell people depends on who you're telling. I can put my hand on my heart and say I wouldn't give a fig what sexuality you have, so long as no animals or children are harmed in the production. My reaction to someone coming out is usually "meh, that's nice"- but not in a harsh way, I do understand that it's a big thing.
Im straight, so i dont know any tips on coming out, but you shouldnt worry about it, because it makes you you. Just tell your friends casually, if you met a girl you liked, ask her to come out for a drink with your friends and then just go from there. If your friends dont like it, you know who your true friends are, and who isnt.. Hope this helps, sorry my advice is a bit pants today
That said, I came out tentatively to someone at 13...
Anyhoo, it's a tricky thing. I've sat some people down and done the serious thing but people are usually not half as shocked as you would think. These days, I just let it come up when we're talking about relationships. I know plenty of people who don't actually know I'm gay, which I find comical as I've not recently made a secret of it.
yeah i'm not 12 i'm 17
Well she seems to know more than i do about this particular subject...and I'm 5 years older
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Think this is the best plan. Possibly have the serious conversation with your parents, or best, best mates, so they don't fall off their chairs when you bring home your first girlfriend. But for less best friends and acquaintances, just mention it if/when it becomes relevant.
There's nothing weirder than someone you barely know making a flourishing announcement about which way they swing. Mainly because you'll find most people, especially the younger few generations, REALLY don't care if you like boys or girls or both or neither, any more than they care if you like bananas, or what colour your pants are on any given day.
Yeah i know a few bi girls but i wouldn't i would go there with them unfortunately.
haha yeah. I'm hoping no one really cares, and i know a lot of the people i know wont. But theres always the few that can't let this type of thing drop.