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The Ex!
BillieTheBot
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Last night. well, in fact, very early this morning at about 2am i received a text from the ex boyfriend telling me he is sorry for the way he acted. fair enough right? but i dont know what to say after the fact i havent spoken to him in 5 months since we split. I want to find out why exactly is he bringing this all up again. He knows ive moved on as i was together with a guy he knows. its just getting me down. not been having the best of times right now because friends all seem to be falling out and the one guy i need the most is thousands of miles away on holiday. do i just dive in and see what on earth he was planning? or do i just ignore him and try put it out of my mind? i am in no way interested in speaking to this guy after what he did to me. feeling a bit like this >>>:banghead: today 
any advice appreciated
Jx
any advice appreciated
Jx Beep boop. I'm a bot.
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To be honest, I've received texts like that from those dangerous exe's months after 'the end' and it's never been out of genuine regret. It's been out of being lonely, being selfish, trying to provoke a response because maybe if she replies then she still cares. Don't rise to it. He will only hurt you again, stir up sore emotions that don't need to be touched. The most refreshing feeling is being where I am now, where I made the choice to break the contact, to not reply again and again and my ex doesn't contact me now and I'm happy; I've moved on and he doesn't make me a mess any more.
Don't do it to yourself; you're stronger than this - don't give him the time of day. You don't have to forgive, you don't have to forget but by replying to him will give you no further consolation -you'll just feel like crap. Move on, ignore it, don't give him any more satisfaction. He cacked it up and you deserve better.
He was pissed
That's what I was thinking
I really hate this guy for what he did to me. Drove me insane.
As for him being pissed. I can safely say he wasnt. He hasnt ever touched alcohol and doubt he does now. But i can see where you get that from.
From a friend i heard that my ex still talks about me all the time. i think he just wanted to talk to me. an area where im just not interested. this guy drove me into actually being frightened of seeing him. i dont need him in my life anymore
thanks again for all replies xx
She's frightened of him. She's moved on. Why on earth would she want to give him a second chance?
Because she says so.
I have an 8 inch penis. You have to believe me because I said so.
OK that was a daft and crude thing to say but nothing in that post indicates he was violent or gave any other reason for her to be frightened. I'm not calling anyone a liar but that post is very limiting and as I said earlier it's not much to go on.
That's simplistic. We tend to believe what people say on here until they prove themselves to be incorrect or liars. If she says she was frightened, who are we to judge at what level that 'fright' is acceptable? What is frighteneing to me, may not be frightening to you. I think its right that she doesn't give the guy a second chance.
Does it matter? We don't need to know that information. She was frightened. Period.
Who cares?
She's frightened of him. That gives her a reason not to see him again, regardless of whether her fear is justified or not.
It's her choice whether or not she sees or speaks to him again, and if she is frightened of him, then there's no further argument to be had. Whether or not her fear is rational or justified is entirely beside the point. After all, he is not entitled to have any contact with her.
Well, we will agree to disagree then. The OP has given us no reason to doubt what she says is true and if she says she is frightened of him, then unless she asks if her fear if justified, I would give her the benefit of the doubt that her fear is real. Apart from that, she quite clearly does not want to go back to him. So no reason to contemplate giving him a second chance.
What was the knee-jerk reaction, as a matter of interest?
but thank you to everyone who has been helpful. its much appreciated. x