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Just found out my x gf is a prostitute. Shes been doing this before and during we went out. I feel she is not thinking very clearly about it and sees it as an easy out. She has a 2 year old kid as well.
Im thinking about telling her mother about it. I have basically cut all ties but i still care about her. What do you think i should do?
Im thinking about telling her mother about it. I have basically cut all ties but i still care about her. What do you think i should do?
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Even though you might care, in my experience once you're out of their lives, they don't want you back in it, regardless of how well intentioned your motives are.
But then if you do say someting you are crossing a line as CTSM says it's not your right as such to tell her parents and intefere with her life because you're her ex.
I don't know what I'd do in that situation. Good luck!
The only thing that would give you a right to tell someone is if her child is suffering because of her work. It might be worth letting social services know if you think her child is being harmed, or might be harmed, because of her job.
Regardless of your intention, or how you friend takes it, you could lose a friend over this. Shouldnt it be something for the actual couple to discuss? What happens if he does allready know, your going to look like a right prized plank when you say something.
Personally as I have said before, I would keep my nose well clear of this, the very fact you said your going to mention it and get the hell out, suggests a very much cut and run tactic, which dont work.
Because on the flipside if you were the one who met this new girl and your friends knew something but didn't tell you...
edit: actually, it would depend how close I was to the guy. If it was an acquaintence absolutely none of my business and in this case could even be construed just as being spiteful to the girl. If it was my best friend definitely, it would be completely unfair not to tell him if I knew because of how devastating it could potentially be to him.
Yea that's why I reconsidered and made my edit, I was looking at it from a very narrow perspective i.e. if it was my best friend who had just met this random girl and I found out.. but obviously it could be a different situation and it's up to the OP to exercise wise judgement.
Will have to see what happens.
The relationship is fucked but at least i dont feel so bad.