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ive recently met this guy. he likes me, i like him, we get on like an house on fire, and we've been out on a few dates. his sisters told him he is a shy lad who isnt keen on making first moves etc. we've been chatting and i've brought up the topic of a relationship. he said that he doesnt want to hurt me. but he wont know if he will hurt me unless he takes the chance im up for giving it a go but how can i get him to give it a go???
please help!!!!
please help!!!!
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tell him that in life everyone gets hurt and thats how the world works, sometimes we make mistakes but we learn from them and if he doesnt give a potential happy relationship a chance, with someone who he could be happy with then thats a mistake.
hope that helps
It could be that taking the time to know him better will be beneficial for both of you - so rather than feeling like you have to jump into a relationship, you could suggest that you'd like to hang out with him more and see how he reacts to that? If he's willing to go on more dates then that's a good sign and rather than feeling the need to label it so soon, it could just naturally develop into a relationship.
On the other hand, if he seems to be backing off, then you can cut your losses and start looking elsewhere.
Let us know how you're getting on.
He may turn out to be some that doesn't fit in your life
also, don't try and force him into a realstionship by saying stuff like if u don't go out with me u'll be hurting me
thats gonna cast the wrong image of you and ,even though it maybe you, its something that would put me of a girl straight away, playing on guilt like that, no, i would never advise that
hope it goes well
(hope my advice helps, even though i'm shit in realstionships :P)
Dare I suggest simply enjoying this new friendship,.....see how it develops.....see what happens, at the end of the day, you ahve fun together, and you never know, this may be the best friend who will always have fun times with you, and you with him.....or it may develop into something really specal....either way, enjoy having fun......! Trust me, there is no need to rush into relationships......they can be fantastic...but are not the be all and end all............