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polygamist lifestyle
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hi people,
what do you think about the topic?!
Is there someone who lives in polygamy relation? Or someone who is thinking of it, does some of you propose it to your partner ???
How you feel to share your emotions, feelings with more than one person? have you ever loved more than one person ?
what do you think about the topic?!
Is there someone who lives in polygamy relation? Or someone who is thinking of it, does some of you propose it to your partner ???
How you feel to share your emotions, feelings with more than one person? have you ever loved more than one person ?
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i mean the relationships with more than 1 person
I have one friend, one of the best, have some kind of feeling for him, but we've never been together, well, like in official relationship, we had fun together always we'd met. Then i've met my actually bf, we are together almost one year, i'm happy with him, i love him, but still think about my friend. He wasn't around for a couple of months, and few days ago texted me if we can meet. I get completly lost with myself, and start thinking thinking and thinking.. With some kind of fear i texted him back that i can't, next time. My bf knows our story. So the idea of polygamy relations is going in my head. Maybe it's selfish, want to have both of them, even just thinking cos i don't really believe that could happen. But i'm courios if some other people have something to say about it.
That's what I was referring to
I don't think there's anything wrong with having feelings for more than one person, our capacity to love isn't finite, but if you're seriously considering going down a route of potentially having more than one partner, then it's important to talk, talk and talk again with your boyfriend. I've got some friends who have multiple relationships as opposed to sexual partners (in my case), it's worked for them so far. Have you read The Ethical Slut? Quite a nice book, very good on communication, the language is a bit crunchy 1970s feminist right on sista style, but it's a good read.
When it comes down to relationships, people's feelings and emotion's are involved. It's human nature to become jealous and I think an experience like this could really destroy someone's trust in other people and relationships, morals and self esteem.
It's not a crime to have feelings for more than one person at a time, I think we've all been there. Unfortunately though, you have to chose one or none at all, otherwise it's not fair on anyone.
For instance, swans are supposed to mate for life - but they don't. Given half a chance, the female will fuck with another male swan in the reeds, if its out of sight of its own male partner, because this ensures that its offspring come from a larger gene pool. Of course, if the male swan partner sees the other male shagging his missus, he gets jealous too and will attack him to chase him off his mate. So polygamy is a very 'primal' urge.
The whole notion of 'love' for one person and living faithfully with them for the rest of their lives is almost a recent 'invention' in human development. People used to marry for money and power but would get their sexual kicks from taking lovers. But the whole 'romantic' notion of a relationship is only a few hundred years old, influenced by Gothic novelists etc.
So, a few days has gone..i tried to discuss with my bf, of course talking potentially, to make some point of his opinion. The answear was very clear! "if you gonna go with someone else you'll have to leave me"
Ok, he's not for that. Not kind of free mind. But i love him, so i think i have to be happy with what i have
Could be interesting...
Thanks for all your answears!
Exactly. Personally i think that if you want to sleep around and have lots of 'relationships' you should be single and not exclusive to one person
Well, at least you got to know how he really feels about it