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Hey all

Been living in Portsmouth now for almost 2 weeks and am loving it! I have made loads of new friends through work and been out drinking quite alot. there are only 2 things bothering me... 1. my flatmate, its doing my head in living here, i feel so out of place and feel like im walking on eggshells i tryed to socialise with him, i even offered him and a beer and invited him down the pub, both of which he declined. so i have given up. im going to try and look for somehwere else to live where im not in sumbody elses home and the people that live there are in the same boat as me. i want somewhere where the landlord lives out so i dont have to be nervous all the time.

The second thing on my mind is remember the cute guy i met at work? well one or 2 things happned between us then i found out he has a gf, which is annoying for me as i really like him. he kept flirting with me and trying it on even though he has a misses and i said to him last night he has to choose, me or her, and he chose her. nice thanks for that, just lead me on, let my feelings for you develop and then knock me back. i seem to have no luck with guys...

I have not herd from my ex in a few days which is GREAT news. im hoping he has finaly given up trying to ruin my life and has moved on to his next victim. my friend saw him out drinking the other night and he told her "oh tell her im with so and so now, she is way fitter and better in bed" ummm how mature, a few months ago a comment like that would of destroyed me, now i don't care.

I jst have to concentre on forgetting this cheater guy at work and stay single as life is a lot less complicated that way. it is hard though where i see him everyday...

Former Member

Great to hear things are going well!
If the landlord problem is bugging you try click with him on his terms (meaning do something he enjoys)?

anyway good luck!

JsT

Good news that the dickhead has finally got the hint hopefully. Living with people can be tough and it can be hard to find someone you gel with - hopefully you'll have some look finding somewhere else

Former Member

Yeah, let's hope you've finally seen the back of him.

Former Member

Am glad the arse from back home is finally getting the message that you're not going back. Stay strong and don't ever give in. Life's much more fun when you can do your own thing and be your own person.
With regards to the cheater at work. Wipe your hands clean, put a line between you both and work on just being friendly with him. Maybe it's me just being cautious but i would probably say why not just chill out being single for a while without getting your head caught up with another dickhead. You've had a really rough ride over the last 6 (?) months and you need some time to yourself and to realise you can be okay on your own and you don't need some arse in your life. I think you've done really well to break away and get your own life so keep going and don't let others drag your mood down.
Wipe your hands of the dickhead at work (who probably picked up on the fact you're a bit vunerable at the moment) and just be glad you're not his girlfriend and move on and enjoy life! :yes:

Former Member

such good news. I agree with finding somewhere where you are flatmates rather than a lodger. I wouldnt enjoy that either.
As for the guy at work, he led you on, but at least he didnt lead you on too far. Youre better off without that hassle. sounds like he just wanted someone to flirt with on the side. you dont need all that after what youve just been through.

Im glad youre enjoying it in general though. Its so good to hear

Former Member

sounds pretty good.

Would not worry about the landlord thing. It's not like he lets you live there, because he's a good Samaritan, but because you pay him hard cash. You tried to socialize with him, but he declines, so what? He might be busy or just not interested. Try it again in a few weeks, but don't think you have to be his best buddy.

Don't worry about the cheating guy either. Stuff like that happens. It's a good sign tho that you are able to bond to other people, and pretty fast at that. So it's just a matter or (short) time.

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Thanks for all your kind messages guys. Yeah i must admit life is pretty sweet at the moment. I never thought I'd do it but i did and i'm so glad!

Thank you all soooooo much for advising me to do the right thing!

I'm was a bit scared i wouldn't make any friends but so far so good, i make an effort to chat to and get to know everybody at work and swap numbers with them.

Cheater guy is still trying it on and its hard as i really like him but even if he did split up with his girlfriend and got with me, would i really want to be with somebody that cheats? (again?)

I still have heard nothing from physco ex im so happy about that. although a few of my mates back home have told me that hes been seen out and about a lot with one of my male mates which i was quite upset about as i thought my mate would have more respecet for me than 2 hang around with my ex. i guess it don't really matter anymore where i don't live there but it still bugs me...