Cannot live without him and don't want to

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nervous:

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Hi hurt, does sound like a very difficult and distressing situation. Has your boyfriend given any indication as to anything in particular that's upsetting him about you having seen other people during the split? For instance, is he worried this may make you more likely to cheat or leave him in the future? Or does he know any of the people you saw? Anything like that? If he has also been with other people, as he has acknowledged, he is being hypocritical and that's unfair on you. It seems as though you have realised you want to be committed to him and it's not as though you have done anything wrong by dating whilst you weren't together. I can understand why sometimes when you have strong feelings for someone, imagining them with someone else can be upsetting, however, if he does really want to make a go of things with you, he's going to have to ultimately accept what has happened (as I'm sure you both know).

Please try to eat and look after yourself. It is HIS problem and you can only do so much in this situation. Making yourself ill will not help things and I'm sure your boyfriend wouldn't want to see you get sick over this. If you have spoken to him and a lot of the reasons for him not being able to handle what's happened are out in the open, it is really down to do something to sort his issues out, or if he can't, to let you know this once and for all, rather than putting you through all this pain.

Keep posting and take care

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:nervous:

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If he wants to be with you he willy-nilly needs to accept that you were seeing other people, or not? Or does he plan to go together with you but confront you non-stop about how unhappy he is with the fact that you were seeing other people? It's not like you can change it now anyway.

If you don't come together with him anymore you'll live anyway...

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:nervous:

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It might feel that way now but it will get easier.

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:nervous:

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:nervous:

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Hey there :wave:

Sorry to hear you're going through such a stressful time right now. It's good that he's agreed to see you but maybe you need to try and take a step back and see if you can calm down beforehand? Maybe have a long bath or go for a walk, something just to clear your head and calm your nerves.

He's obvioulsy finding it hard to deal with. Jealousy is a really tough emotion to control and that's probabaly what hes feeling. It's often irrational or unfounded and in his case hypocritical but it can be very hard to push to one side.

It sounds like he needs to calm down too and get his head together so you may not want to push it or hope for too much but just honestly and calmy tell him how you feel about him and that if he wants to be with you he just needs to try and accept what's happened is in the past and realise that if anything, it's only made you want to be with him more.

I hope it goes well and that given a bit of time he will come around, as you say he is aware that he's being hypocritical but right now he's just overwhelmed by how it makes him feel. Good luck