Advice after first date

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i met a girl when i was out clubbing about a week or so now, so i went to her house the following weekend as like a "first date" to get to know each other, we got on so well and i felt really happy with her, we even had a few kisses during the night, but since then she has been barely replying to my texts and when she does its really brief, like she cant be bothered with me, but on the date she said she really liked me and would love to meet up again, im so confused i dont know what to do, i feel really sad and low bout it now, i dont know if shes just playing me along but she didnt seem that sort of person, just want some advice please !!

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Why don't you try ringing her, instead of texting?

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Also by ringing her its easier to judge her mood and what she thinks by her voice, whereas texts are harder to judge and are often misread. Then you'll be able to ask her out and she'll have to reply there and then rather than leaving you hanging for a day.

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also just to add sum more info, she just came out of a relationship a few week ago she said, and mentioned that she wud want to take things slow if she got in another relationship, but still, trying to avoid the question when i asked her when she wud like to meet up again, im not being too pushy am i if im only wanting to know whether i have a chance of another date ??

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Ring her and ask.

Organising another date is hardly being pushy.

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yeah ok cheers for advice, guess im just kinda worried bout blowing my chance as i do really like her

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Thing is, wait around and somebody else may ask her first. Then you've REALLY blown it.

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ok she's said yeah she will go to cinema with me on thursday, but she is still hardly ever talkin to me and when she does its really brief, like she really cant be bothered talking to me, i dont know if she really is interested in me or not but she says she is, and if she isnt then maybe she just doesnt have the heart to tell me ?? i dunno wot to think or what to do !! surely if she isnt interested she wud hav said no to the date right ?!?!

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advice on relationship please !!

ok here goes, i met a girl jst over a week ago when i was out clubbing, the following weekend jst past, i went to her house as like a "first date" to get to know each other more, we had a great time jst talking and making each other laugh, we felt happy together, even had a few passionate kisses. she sed she really likes me and wud love to meet again, but since then whenever weve spoke either on phone or texts, shes been really brief with me like she cant be bothered talking to me, she sed she still likes me when i asked her agen and she agreed to meet up agen this week, but only when i had to ask her a few times, and shes still seeming "off" with me, i dont know if she does actually like me or not, but if she didnt she wud not have agreed to another date right ?!?!?!

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Chill out mate! It sounds like youre getting way to into it considering you've only known her five minutes. Just let whatever happens happen, if she likes you as much as you mention then she should also be ringing/texting you to do stuff so just take a step back a little and let her make up some of the distance

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m4tty01 wrote: »

i met a girl when i was out clubbing about a week or so now, so i went to her house the following weekend as like a "first date" to get to know each other, we got on so well and i felt really happy with her, we even had a few kisses during the night, but since then she has been barely replying to my texts and when she does its really brief, like she cant be bothered with me, but on the date she said she really liked me and would love to meet up again, im so confused i dont know what to do, i feel really sad and low bout it now, i dont know if shes just playing me along but she didnt seem that sort of person, just want some advice please !!

Sounds to me like she's not really interested, sorry mate. But a crude translation of a proverb says: friendships made with wine last as long as the wine lasts (pretty stupid. there is surely a better translation). She could be amazed by you, in a drunken state, but the next day, just can't be bothered with any of it. Happens.

She could just be unsure either. Just go along and find out.