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Advice needed- Dont know what to do
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Hi all
I know my previous thread suggested that I am unhappy but please try to ignore that when reading this. Thats sorted now.
I am happily married with 2 wonderful children, they are 1 & 4. Recently Mrs Confused has started to drop hints that she would like another baby. This is something I dont want- I have told her this but she said 'You'll be fine when the baby is born; to which I replied 'Oh so I havent got a choice then?!'
That was a couple of weeks ago & things havent been the same between us since then. I dont want anymore children as I am more than happy with my life now.
What do I tell her?
I know my previous thread suggested that I am unhappy but please try to ignore that when reading this. Thats sorted now.
I am happily married with 2 wonderful children, they are 1 & 4. Recently Mrs Confused has started to drop hints that she would like another baby. This is something I dont want- I have told her this but she said 'You'll be fine when the baby is born; to which I replied 'Oh so I havent got a choice then?!'
That was a couple of weeks ago & things havent been the same between us since then. I dont want anymore children as I am more than happy with my life now.
What do I tell her?
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2. Seriously though, this is a difficult one. Have you had her work out if you can actually afford to have another baby?
3. Get a vasectomy. A friend of mine did this as he was in the same situation - left pretty much no margin for error. In all honesty, is a drastic solution... not sure if it's the right one.
I reply 'Yes that fair enough but I like to live in a house!'
Feels as if Im talking to a brick wall
It seems selfish but I dont ever want another baby.
The truth.
You have a right to want children, and you have a right to decide when you've done your bit and don't want to take on any more. She has the exact same rights.
If the roles were reversed, with you wanting more but her wanting to keep things as they were... how utterly wrong would it be for you to tell her "You'll come around to the idea" after bowling your load up her? Society would find you to be controlling and abusive.
You both have rights here - if she can't respect yours, then you should give as much respect to her wants. What we're effectively talking about here is the creation of a new life, and whether it exists or not - you have a responsibility to do as you think is right.
The whole country is "coming around" to the idea of a collapsing housing market, deep recession, and no security. Does that mean any of us want it? Or that the banks were right to make the decisions they did and put us through what we're currently seeing?
If you do want vasactomy it up to the hospital surgeon the dr just sends referals go back ask again.I got sterilized 2year ago and i was 22year got 2 girls.And you need to tel her how u realy feel :yes:
And also 2 kids at 23 isnt that young i got 2 and im 25 in nov.
There another new poster who 15years got 2 kids and one on the way soon.