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Wtf!? PSYCHO!?
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So my boyfriend and I were having troubles. This morning we had a lovely chat and I thought, ah thank god things are looking up. We were talking, it was a nice etc.
Then he fell asleep when he was supposed to call me so I fell back asleep. Then he rang me when he woke up and was a bit grumpy. I told him this and he hung up. Then next thing I know he's like I'm breaking up with you, I can't do the distance thing etc etc etc.
I felt this and was obviously upset but sort of agreed. Hoping maybe we could pick it up if when I move back to London... then it seems to have just descended into chaos.
Next thing I know he's talking about wishing how he could have fucked all these other girls and stuff. Then it descended to I hate your cellulite, you've really let yourself go since we got together, you look like Long John Silver (because my teeth are in a bit of a state at the moment because of an accident I had with him and there's no NHS dentists taking on patients in my area), how I'm a mess, he went out with me for pity etc etc.
Texting me going See ya tubs, Blobby blobby blobby. And ringing me, ringing me ringing me. Ringing my house phone. Abusing my dad.
Then I called him a horrible example of a human being and how I wished I hadnt' wasted my time and money on him and he got all like "So you think you wasted your time, cheers!" and now won't leave me alone.
How the hell did it descend into that? How the hell does he have the right to be so fucking mean to me? Laughing at me and being cruel. Saying he never liked me and only went out with me for pity. That he hasn't wanted to sleep with me because he hated when I took my clothes off. The thought of going on holiday made him feel sick because the thought of me in a bikini. How he should be with someone much fitter...
I feel like shit anyway but why did he have to descend into such childish name calling. At the moment, he is still calling. I've turned my phone off and he's calling the house phone.... why won't he leave me alone. Why does he want to upset me even more?
What did I do to deserve this?
Then he fell asleep when he was supposed to call me so I fell back asleep. Then he rang me when he woke up and was a bit grumpy. I told him this and he hung up. Then next thing I know he's like I'm breaking up with you, I can't do the distance thing etc etc etc.
I felt this and was obviously upset but sort of agreed. Hoping maybe we could pick it up if when I move back to London... then it seems to have just descended into chaos.
Next thing I know he's talking about wishing how he could have fucked all these other girls and stuff. Then it descended to I hate your cellulite, you've really let yourself go since we got together, you look like Long John Silver (because my teeth are in a bit of a state at the moment because of an accident I had with him and there's no NHS dentists taking on patients in my area), how I'm a mess, he went out with me for pity etc etc.
Texting me going See ya tubs, Blobby blobby blobby. And ringing me, ringing me ringing me. Ringing my house phone. Abusing my dad.
Then I called him a horrible example of a human being and how I wished I hadnt' wasted my time and money on him and he got all like "So you think you wasted your time, cheers!" and now won't leave me alone.
How the hell did it descend into that? How the hell does he have the right to be so fucking mean to me? Laughing at me and being cruel. Saying he never liked me and only went out with me for pity. That he hasn't wanted to sleep with me because he hated when I took my clothes off. The thought of going on holiday made him feel sick because the thought of me in a bikini. How he should be with someone much fitter...
I feel like shit anyway but why did he have to descend into such childish name calling. At the moment, he is still calling. I've turned my phone off and he's calling the house phone.... why won't he leave me alone. Why does he want to upset me even more?
What did I do to deserve this?
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Second, you don't need a dickhead like that in your life! What a cunt!!
I can't believe he had the audacity to say any of those things! Seriously, what the fuck happened to him?
Maybe he said it to make the break up easier for himself. Maybe he wanted to find things he didn't like so it felt better for him.
But that's still no excuse.
Fuck him, the fucking cunt.
You deserve so much better than that. Anybody does.
Good riddance to him. Don't listen to what he's said, and carry on your life without him. You don't need that.
I probably won't do anything but I fancy making him squirm by still refusing to speak to him even though he's just realised it.
Let him squirm in his dirt, the pig.
Where is he? I'd like to chop his balls off, cut out his spine and use it as a salt cellar.
This. Or simply just notify the cops right away.
He clearly has issues.
I've left my mobile on, on the table, on silent and allowing it to ring so it shows how many times he's called me.
I'm not going to report him until I've fully calmed down.... otherwise I'll just be acting out of emotions than clear headedness.
To say it's massively pathetic and shit is an understatement. I'm sure you already know that you don't deserve any of this, but at the same time I know that's probably little consolation to you right now.
Keep using the distance thing to your advantage and ignoring him. Somehow it feels like the hardest thing in the world to just ignore someone you've been close to and loved when they start acting this out of character, but stay strong and you'll end up paying for it much less with your own self esteem in the long run.
Look after yourself and I hope his shitty behaviour dies down soon.
Agreed, if any of my partners turned round n said cruel tings about my flaws id really be upset and angry.. but yeh maybe is easier for him to break up..
like with my first ex i thought she was breaking up coz it wasnt working but she confessed she snogged another guy for like over 3 months without telling me i was like
"how could you do that you whore"
meh..
anyway you can find someone MUCH better!!
It really makes me wonder about all the shit he said about his ex. I don't doubt that she fucked him around but I'm starting to wonder whether or not he drove her to it. I just feel really hurt right now. I am going to ignore him, don't worry I just feel indescribably sad right now.
As for the pulling of the strings, every time we fought I never initiated it. I don't think I've ever really "argued" with him. He would go mad over something REALLY stupid and then just shout for a while saying mean things. I thought he was just angry and would walk off, leave him to it till he came back and apologised but today it really took on a new level.
If anything I was fine when I met him and he's proceeded to bring me back down a few more pegs, which I'm trying desperately to not allow. But I am feeling so shit right now.
i hope for the best for you.
I've got a funny feeling that he's suddenly realised the monumental fuck up he's just made. Sucks to be him. I'm definitely well shot of him.
My dad doesn't really quite know how to deal with these situations, he just told me to pull myself together and went and bought me some Quality Street.
My mum was always so much better at this stuff...
Sounds like hes realised hes made a massive fuck up by letting you go and has lost the plot.
Sounds like your well shot of him!
So tempted to tell the police.... don't think I should though. I think it may escalate things.
I hope he realises what a massive mistake he made. Tbh from your posts it does sound like you have put up with a lot from him! I don't think he realises what a fab girl he had, now he has messed it up. Clearly he has a few issues and if he is being like this maybe you are better off without him. If he carries on threatening you definatly go to the police he can't get away with behaviour like that!!
Hopefully once both you and he have calmed down you might be able to talk things over and come to a satisfactory if not happy ending.
I knew a couple just like you, they kicked each others car door mirrors off!
Bliss, eh. Weeks later they were happily married. Now that's what l call true love. There's a fine line between love and hate!
Or to send me a grovelling text apologising that I can ignore.
And to Caesar, I would never ever ever do that. That's the whole point, he's the one losing it. I have been (except for maybe two upset comments) perfectly calm and reasonable. It's just been non stop abuse from him... pretty much since I moved. I'm glad to be rid of him I just wish I wasn't so upset and didn't feel so low about myself right now. Because even though I know he's talking crap it still gets to you.
Hope you're alright, what an utter cunt he is.
Whats his number?
Haha, bless you. Nah he's not worth harassing. I've always prided myself on being quite a rational person in break ups. I never do anything negative even if it's deserved, I never spread rumours, I just distance myself and try and get on with things.
My sister came around earlier with my niece and bought me the biggest bunch of flowers and my dad's taking me out for a drink. He said "You can get really drunk and cry if you want. I'll pay". My best friend offered to jump on a train down from London just to be with me.
I'm so lucky my family are here for me and my mates, I'd be a mess if I were on my own.
Thanks so much guys. I'll let you know what happens. I've blocked him on facebook as well and reported him for harassment on there as he started sending me lots of messages (How I don't know, I blocked him!) demanding his driving license back. And as much as I want to send it back to him cut up, I will not stoop so low.
You're being so amazing about this! I'm so glad you have your friends and family with you =]
Where does he live in London? Me and Rich can go kick his door down tomorrow if you like
I only hope in another three years time when I do let someone in again he won't be an absolute wanker again.
Btw, sent him his driving license back. Right address and everything, put a stamp on so he won't have to pay but still wrote CUNT in the top of the envelope so he can read it when he gets it. Childish but the cheapest shot I've ever done. And it feels fucking GOOOOOOOD!
Hilarious - well done
I'm sorry for you, though, I've been harassed like that and it's just awful. Chin up.