Stress ARGH

Former Member

Ok, so this is more a vent, but any advice would be a real help.

I am in the financial shit... My hours at work fluctuate and over Christmas they were so bad I literally didn't make enough to cover rent and the most basic of living costs. Hence my rent was late, which means I need to take the following weeks and spend less...

I can't afford to go out... I mean I literally can't afford it... I can't afford to spend more than £12 per week on food... I feel completely isolated. Most of me mates have moved away and it is really hard to get a job.

My life sucks I think... I am happy I am not on the street, but I just hate being this poor. My teeth hurt, I can't afford treatment. I am usually a social person but I am starting to feel so low that socialising in work is really hard...

I hate my job, I wish I had never left my home town to go to university. I was happier being a cleaner and bar person than I am now. :rolleyes:

I am starting to get a lot of suicidal thoughts and I just wanna cry. I work in sales and it has affected my performance... I don't feel comfortable where I work...

Should I tell my boss that I get cyclic depression? I am only a temp and I might get laid off.

Also, does anybody have any advice on dealing with stress? I have nobody to talk to.

Ta

Former Member

Go and see a doctor. They might be able to put you on something to make it a bit easier.

Former Member

Hey Namaste :wave:

Sorry to hear you're going through a bit of a rubbish time at the moment, everything seems to be getting on top of you.

You said you need someone to talk to, could you try going to your GP just for some advice about counselling services?

There are plenty of places to ring for a chat/vent... Samaritans, Saneline or Support Line could really help, and may be able to offer info on services around your area or just a friendly ear. These are all local rate numbers from a landline but may be a bit more expensive from a mobile.

How do you think your boss might react to you telling them you have cyclic depression? Do you think it'd help?

Hope this helps, keep posting

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come and live near me Sel. I will look after you

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You could move back home for a while till your feeling more upbeat then start over. Not sure where your based, but there is a careers fair in London next week, think it's Career Forums.

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Crumbs wrote: »

You could move back home for a while till your feeling more upbeat then start over. Not sure where your based, but there is a careers fair in London next week, think it's Career Forums.

Thing is, there are no jobs in my hometown, it is an unemployment trap. My Mum stresses me out and I was abused when I was a kid so that place has bad memories.

I just don't feel like I should exist in the world. I'm a useless sack of crap, my learning difficulties make shit so hard for me and everybody I have trusted seems to fuck me over.

I could go to a doctor, but I can't afford the time off work to get the councilling I need (I was referred to a special centre at uni because my councilling all of a sudden stopped).

I work in business sales and don't want to go back on Prozac, as I don't trust the company and antidepressents make me aggressive.

Former Member

Hi Namaste,

Thought these articles on anxiety & stress from thesite may help as it sounds as if you have loads to cope with at the same time which may not be helping.

You said you could go to see a doctor which sounds like a good idea. You could explain the difficulties you have in fitting counselling around your work commitments, a lot of services are now more flexible in that they can work outside of the 9 to 5 structure to accommodate more people. You could ask your GP if this is something which has been set up in your area?

You could also ask your GP for advice on other antidepressants which don't make you aggressive. Alternatively or as well as, you can look through antidepressants articles to get an idea of the massive spectrum of different antidepressants available.

Hope you feel better soon, let us know how you get on :thumb:

Former Member

Thanks for the advice people.

My hours have still fluctuated a bit and I have decided that if I am not sorted with a job by March I am moving back to Wales.

I had a test today for the DWP, but they fucked up the disability thing. They spelt my name wrong (this was a literacy test, pathetic), they got my requirements wrong and the letter was wrong. :rolleyes:

If I fail this test, I'm going back to bar work. I was told never to aim too high and that I am nice, but not very bright... I am starting to realise this, I found the maths really hard. :crying:

In short, I give up. I'll kill myself if I contnue like this.

Former Member

Have you graduated yet?

And there will be other jobs if you don't get this one. Have you tried recruitment agencies? And just because you found the maths hard doesn't mean you're not bright. We all have strengths in different things! I'm not great at maths either.

Former Member

Why try and struggle to live in London when you could move elsewhere and pay much less?

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wooooooooah wrote: »

Why try and struggle to live in London when you could move elsewhere and pay much less?

Because I can't afford to move.

Next week I am gonna ask my boss for time off to go to the doctors to see if I can get help for this stupid depression, or maybe councilling outside the hours of work.