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Whats a rebound relationship?
BillieTheBot
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Can anybody tell me what one is?
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what are the signs of one?
how can i tell if it is?
Its my situation..my ex best mates all for going out with her hes always throwin signs smiling nudging etc.
Shes been upset or looekd it recently? does tat mean shes not over it? or maybe its too soon?
Think you hit it on the head. If she hasn't hooked up with you ex mate yet she's either not over you or its to soon for her to date again. Can't really saw which one though. And she can't be in a rebound relationship if she isn't with anyone else, right.
I think you need to take a step back, as hard as it is, step back from your exes life. It sounds harsh (and it is) but your not going out with each other anymore.
yeh i know ive 'stepped back' but i was wondering if it is or not becoz my ex best mate he jumped straight into my grave basically.
By asking if its a rebound relationship, its almost as if your hoping its not going to work out or something.
If she does want you back or something in the future, that again is going to be her decision too.
It sounds like you're experiencing a lot of the common feelings related to break-ups - rejection being one of the most painful. You asked in another thread how you'll know when you're over her - one of the sure signs is that you're not concerned if you were to see her fooling around with another guy. You'll get there - really you will. *hugs*
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my ex best mate and my ex are going out now and today i felt all angry my heart was racing and i was thinking to myself "what a fucking twat how could he do that to me?".Right and them 2 and my ex's best friend are all like best mates together..the female best friend has been off all week ill so when she gets back in my own..sick way im hoping she drives wedges in between them because its not very fair on me for him to jump in my grave as soon as me and her broke up. Is that normal? I also heard that him and a friend of mine who i hang with sometimes were talking about it a few days ago and apparently my ex best mate was talking bout asking her out. and said summit like "I'm scared when we eventually start to have sex" hes talking bout that before they even went out? does that mean he only wants that i dont think he does but why else would you say that..?
Ive spoken to my close friends n they reckon it will go wrong OR they will get wedges in between them
Thanks Helen for the e-hug
Its not fair or nice what your old best mate has done, but its not your relationship its his and your exes!
If you continue to be intrustive into this, its going to make you look like a lost puppy that doesnt want to give up on something that has moved on. As others have said, if she does want you back in the end, or if things dont work out with her and this new guy then fair enough, but dont get involved!
Im not going to have any part i dont want to be involved but its sort of to do with me though still because deep down i do have feelings for her and i dont want to god damn it!
Her best friend is like that its happened so many times in the past. Personally i think them 2 will tell her best friend to fuckoff tbh and then she'll have nobody.
End of the day i highly dislike all 3 of them now.
Im probly thinking too far ahead but i just cant wait to get to college and find a girl who will fucking love ME for who i am not for who they want me to be. right?
Your feelings are to do with you yes, but what goes on in her life is no longer to do with you, is the point im trying to get across
Yeah i know its nothing to do with me anymore but it does in a way that it could be a rebound? alot of my friends think so and i do to because about? 3 days ago she even said to one of my firends she isnt ready n its too soon and hes more of a friend type? and what happens? theyre going out now it makes no sense.
On a slight plus note, this guy that you used to consider your friend, you now know how trustworthy a friend he really is.
It sounds harsh but i hope it all goes wrong because theyve hurt me so bad tbh ive been pissed for ages and they deserve it.
I dont know what she see's in him though im not saying im better but he doesnt do well at school; he shows off all the time; has no experience with girls. Im not too sure. =/
PLUS he's thinking about sex with her already..
http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showpost.php?p=2205178&postcount=3
I think the too much PC time, is a bit to blame. Plus whatever may be true about her friends, talking about one of them in the way you did, really does sound like your clutching at straws. She obviously wont read all of this thread, but if she did, would she not think you were begining to sound a bit desperate.
Youve only been broke up a couple of weeks now or something yeah? All this random feelings of betrayal and lonliness will subside, you just have to give it time!
I also hate saying this, as a few people in here find it patronising and offensive, but your only 15, im not going to say you will have bigger things to worry about when you get older. But theres much more to life out there, get out there and keep yourself occupied, live life etc, dont get stuck up on someone who has moved on. Enjoy yourself for being yourself rather than moping over someone who obviously isnt good enough for you
Well..in a way i think because yeh she broke up with me and she was like were going on a BREAK and she overly emphasised that and i was best mates with him at teh time and i was like yeh im gonna try to get her back but i think hes like..been charming and drove her away from me slightly.
I dont know if the relationship is rebound or not, but your friend is definitely behaving like a tosser
Now you could be getting yourself into dangerous "paranoid" territory now! Nobody disagrees that your ex, and your old best friend have been a bit heartless about this. But you need to move on.
You said yourself part of the reason you two broke up is because you spent far too much time on the PC. Now how is that your friends fault?
07:51 this morning
from 15.20 this afternoon onwards!
I think if you keep going over things and watching this thread, and constantly checking for any responses as soon as you get back from college or whatever, wont do you too much good.
Go for a walk, go for a bike ride, get away from the PC, therefore if things dont work out between your ex and your old best friend, then at least you can say your not a PC addict anymore!
I didnt say it was did i?
plus im not doing much atm so im checking it every few minutes. This problem is my first of its kind so its affecting me big style. It doesnt really help when your pointing fingers at me coz im a PC addict? i worked it out for myself thanks.
2) You have stated on your other earlier posts that you think you have a bit of a PC addiction.
3) As heartless as it is him jumping in/on your grave, if the reason you split was beacuse of the PC addiction, its not exactly this guys fault.
You didnt say it was, but you seem to have in this afternons spate of posts started hypothesising about all sorts of things.
I didnt say it was all his fault i suggested that he could be PART of it.
Well lets for example forget the shitty thing that he has done, if he wasnt your friend, and you didnt know him, lets look at it that way.
You (ex) lass is unhappy, for reasons you have posted in another thread (in december or something) and breaks up with you, perhaps says "we need a break" so she lets you down gently. Yes its shit, but what happens if someone does make a move, someone that isnt making her unhappy and that she also likes?
It feels more shit because he used to be your friend, but you admitted yourself that you had a slight issue which may have caused some friction in your relationship. If you truly liked her, shouldnt you want her to just be happy? Obviously things might well not work out if this is a rebound relationship, but relationships (while they sometimes do work out) generally dont last for long at your age anyway.
Yeah i do want her to be happy i want everyone in the world to be i guess but i still love her in a way that it i get annoyed when any guy like touches her or hugs her or anything
The past few weeks ive been like yeah 2nd girlfriend not a problem ill get over her im not a total failure but today its all came back to me when she waited for him outside my maths class n is aw em walk off together my blood boiled and my heart raced and the same again when he just signed on msn bout 5 mins ago..
GAHHHH