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EDs (Eating Disorders)

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I feel so alone in all this it is like no-one understands or wants to try and even understand even the professionals don't seem to really understand. I feel like I am :banghead: against a brick wall. I just wish there was someone who wanted and could understand what I am going through.
Plez if anyone thinks that they can like help me here and I mean understand not like try and tell ma how I can do this and do that.
Plez
If you want to know more info like more privatly just ask.:thumb:

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hay

    I just need advice and someone to talk about my ED but someone who has had one or does have one.
    :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have been through anorexia. Got through it and now im a healthy 7stone. =] Speak to me tomorrow, i have a migraine and need to go bed. =p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    will pm you darling.

    i'd rather not talk about my eating issues in front of everyone. xxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh I didn't realise that Ali. Wow we have so much in common. Yeah I will talk to you tomorrow. I am going through the same one as what you went through Anorexia. :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you want to eat more then do so when i broke my wrists in year 7 i lost alot of weight coz i couldnt go get snacks like i used to. then i stopped eating and lost even more and i drank loaooods...

    Just eat little things but regulary.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi there:wave:

    You're in a good place to get some support so hang in there! You might find it useful to have a look through our section on eating disorders.

    Have you got someone you can speak to about how you are feeling, friends, family or maybe a teacher? You say professionals don't help, does this mean you've you spoken to your doctor? If you haven't, maybe give it a try, they could refer you for some counselling so you can talk things through. This might sound a bit scary, but it could make a big difference, if you let people in, they'll generally try their best to support you.

    Keep posting and let us know how you get on! :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    - have had anorexia for 7 years

    - been admitted into a psych hospital 5 times to try and combat it

    - currently at a healthy weight, catching up with my psychiatrist and dietitian fortnightly

    - it is possible to recover. a year ago i would exercise for ages after freaking out about eating a rice cake, now i'm content eating chocolate bars, etc.

    - i might not be able to have kids because my oestrogen levels are so low - they are in the post-menopausal range and i am only 19. i just hope they pick up now that i am at a healthy weight!

    - definitely get help if you have an ED. whether it's a psychiatrist, dietitian, social worker, psychologist, anyone who specialises in eating disorder counselling is good. they will have a good idea of what you are going through and will help you sort your stuff out

    - also, i don't think it's appropriate to post your weight on this site (this is directed at Ali), because people tend to compare themselves, etc. saying you are a healthy weight is enough information

    - the past couple of years have basically been focused on combatting my anorexia, i was extremely underweight and am now happily very close to a healthy BMI. i've seen and heard a LOT about eating disorders, having been around people with eating disorders in hospital for so much of my time

    - anorexia is the worst thing that has happened in my life so far, it becomes so addictive to not eat, it is so difficult to try and recover and gain that weight back. i was put on three weight gain drinks (ensure/resource) per day, as well as breakfast, lunch and dinner

    - anorexia has ruined many relationships, my body, and has basically been a waste of time for me. all that exercising in my room when i could have been out with friends! avoiding going out to lunch because i didn't want to eat! it completely isolates you from everyone else as you get sucked deeper and deeper into this hole. i was irritable, exhausted, had headaches, low blood pressure, constipation and sharp pains in my heart, as well as many other unhealthy symptoms.

    - in a nutshell: get help, you CAN recover, EDs are a waste of time and we are ALL better off without them.

    best wishes :):heart:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I wish it was that easy. It sounds easy. But it is not easy at all. :(
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I wish it was that easy. It sounds easy. But it is not easy at all. :(

    I didn't say it was easy. I just didn't want to sound discouraging by saying that it is the most difficult thing I have ever done: getting to a healthy weight.

    When I was in hospital, I threw many tantrums about not eating, would put all my furniture behind my door so the nurses couldn't come in and take me to the table, I even threw my plate once when I got really worked up. I would go to the bathroom and lock the door to do situps, since the nurses could barge into our rooms at any time. I was caught for stashing laxatives and extra anti-anxiety medication. In a nutshell, I was a trouble-maker because I was trying to do everything I could to prevent the weight gain.

    However, it really is the most difficult things in life that are worth achieving. My mood is better, I have more energy, I go out more, and I am much, MUCH happier. I still have a way to go with my recovery but my dietitian and psychiatrist are pleased with my progress.

    The eating disorder WANTS you to be miserable, WANTS you to hate yourself and isolate yourself, to hurt yourself, to take over your life. You think you're in control, but the ED has total control over you. That's the illusion that eating disorders give. For me, my anorexia was a coping mechanism, I'm so attached to it that I find it very hard letting go, but I am doing it slowly.

    You can all get there
    Feel free to join my facebook cause on raising awareness about eating disorders and the fight to get "thinspiration" off the internet
    http://apps.facebook.com/causes/80913?m=3124eff7&recruiter_id=1096857
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Actually, recovery is the easiest thing in the world. The hard part is wanting to recover. If you do not want to get better (and you might say you want to, but saying, and really, really REALLY wanting to get better = 2 very different things) then you won't. As soon as you do, you will.

    Getting better involves abandoning all your excuses and safety nets and the barrier of being different/special/in control, and laying yourself bare, as a normal person with no ED to absorb your bad points and failings, and really wanting that is a very difficult thing.

    It's worth it, though, just being ordinary. I can recommend it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    recovery? easy?

    it's full of ups and downs

    2 months of a healthy weight and today i can't bring myself to eat. it comes in waves
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    2 months of a healthy weight and today i can't bring myself to eat. it comes in waves

    2 months isn't long. You cannot just become fixed straight away. It's a case of being sometimes ok, then generally ok, until you get to the stage where you are always ok, and then you can progress to sometimes good, 50/50 ok and good, and then good most of the time is within reach.

    1 step backwards is ok. Just don't let yourself keep falling.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the thing is... i know all that, because i've had my ED for 7 years and have experienced relapse quite a few times. but, i really thought this time was going to be the last of it, and, being a perfectionist, i freaked out over one day of not wanting to eat.

    cool2play22, maybe you are not receiving enough/the right professional help? if only you lived here in melbourne, australia... i have the best dietitian ever, and my psychiatrist is great too..

    stay strong darling, we're here for you, and i have a good idea of what you're going through as i have felt that same way in my life many times
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah I just wish that I would start to get easier like everyone is telling me it will do soon.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I spose it different for everyone, but something that may help is taking B-vitamins, they help release energy from food, might make you feel better or least feel the proggression especially if your not eating much, they could help get the most from what is being eaten.
    hope this helps
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks for the advice. :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why does recovry take so long? Wish it didn't.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I just need advice and someone to talk about my ED but someone who has had one or does have one.
    :)

    i know that there are several people with all sorts of EDs at http://www.nshn.co.uk.
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