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Opinions on long distance relationships ?
BillieTheBot
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Okay my first girlfriend was this girl i met on the internet i went out with her for 2 years it was my first experience of love. She lived about 3 hours in the train away from me. Im suprised we lasted that long
Just wondered what you all thought about it and at what age it would last alot longer than mine. (i was 13-15 when it happened).
Just wondered what you all thought about it and at what age it would last alot longer than mine. (i was 13-15 when it happened).
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Obviouly there are factors that get in the way such as one person not being as committed, or unable to travel. 13 - 15 is quite a young age so i reckon these things are more likely to happen then but i wouldnt have said it was any less of a relationship than if you lived next door.
As you say though the ability to travel will be a big issue plus having the time and money to do it often enough in order to sustain the relationship.
Yeah i was young i went on the train with my family to see her. In the end i couldnt take it so i packed it in.
we talked on t'interweb for a few months, nothing romantic or anything, just witty banter, chatting etc. then one day he asked me randomyl if i wanted to come to Devon with him and his mate, it was a bit of a risk [meeting a guy who ive never met and dont really know well and his mate and driving miiilles to Devon for god knows what reason...]
but i went, i needed a bit of excitment in my life
anyhoo, when we met it was awesome blah blah bah etc.
we ended up in a relationship even though he lived 120 miles away. he drive to me, stay a few days and i would train it down and do the same.
well, 15 months later me and him are amazingly happy and living together
even planning on getting married
I have had a similar thing....met someone via a website and we clicked straight away and within a month we were living together and he asked me to marry him dec 2007 and we got married in September 2008.
As individuals you have to work at a relationship every day and be there and not to fight too much. True love is out there.
wow, thats great
people dont often understand when people meet online and dont see it as a valid way of meeting people
My opinions on long distance relationships. This isn't a type of relationship for everyone, only a few have what it takes to make this work. Lots of communication between the two is needed. There might not be too many visits between the two people. The time in between can be very difflecult. Alot of trust is needed between the two. Along with alot of other things Im sure I haven't covered everything.
I think this type of relationship can work if the two people involved want to work at it with each other. Even still chances are low and more likely the two will find someone closer to them.
At the end of the day i don't think anyone could be totally happy staying in a long distance relationship. If neither people are willing to move at some point in time it will come to an end. In some ways this good because if you do end up moving to each other then its a good chance you have found real love.
I have completely fallen for the girl i am seeing now. I really think she could be the one BUT at the end of the day im only human. I require a lot of affection and physical contact. This is so important to me that without it i would never be truly happy.
So i think that is the question that will determine the outcome of any long distance relationship.
they suck.
Yeahhhh. Would you like to expand on that please? I doubt much help its going to be to people if you just say "Oh that sucks.." Reasons why? Previous experiences?? I dont think you should post your opinion on them if you're not going to expand on explainations of your post.
we were both 13-15 (no transport)
she didnt trust me wel (no idea why i was loyal 100%)
all on msn/phone not very..idk? real if you like.
I was just answering the thread title.
As to why?
- You can't see your partner whenever you like.
- Travel costs
- More problems coming up, if you had an argument and can't talk it out face to face.
- More problems coming up, if you are a bit jealous.
- Sooner or later you will have to move near to each other, or you'll live yourself apart. The happy stuff that keeps your hormones up is happening less and less until you fall out of love.
Advantages?
I dunno... maybe you have more time for yourself? Which is probably what you want in a fresh and ripe relationship (attention: irony).
Same as my opinion. At the end of the day no wants a reltionship with a phone or a computer END OF
My current boyfriend and I are also in a LDR, it's really fucking hard. I was supposed to come home last night but just couldn't leave. Stayed another night and he ended up calling into work saying he was going to be late just so we could spend more time together. It's again, really expensive, but I think that if a LDR is done properly, you have all the right elements there like trust and friendship and good communication, more often than not they can be stronger in the long run.
However. They fucking suck.