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I feel my boyfriend's mate cares more!
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Me and my boyfriend have been together 8 months this time but I don't feel as strongly for him as I did the first time we went out. We rarely leave our houses even though I ask him and he's quite selfish sometimes. I didn't really start questioning our relationship until the other day when one of my exes told me I deserved more. He told me that he had loved me and still does but knows that I don't want him anymore. Then another ex told me he wanted me back but he also knew that ship had sailed.
On New Years Eve, me and my boyfriend went to an intimate party at his best mate's place. Another mate starting flirting a lot with me and he was managing to press all my buttons, not just sexual but the way he treated me aswell. My boyfriend was in the same room but he didn't get jealous or stop the guy. I was really drunk and only managed to stop him doing one thing that turned me on, by that time I had fallen for him. We stayed up, just the two of us, really late talking and we did the same last night. He really seems to appreciate me which my boyfriend doesn't and he seems to know just what I'm thinking.
I really don't know what to do because I want this guy so much, I can't stop thinking about him. I don't wanna hurt my boyfriend though and I don't even know if it would work with the guy because he lives a few miles away and goes to a different college.
Help??? Please
On New Years Eve, me and my boyfriend went to an intimate party at his best mate's place. Another mate starting flirting a lot with me and he was managing to press all my buttons, not just sexual but the way he treated me aswell. My boyfriend was in the same room but he didn't get jealous or stop the guy. I was really drunk and only managed to stop him doing one thing that turned me on, by that time I had fallen for him. We stayed up, just the two of us, really late talking and we did the same last night. He really seems to appreciate me which my boyfriend doesn't and he seems to know just what I'm thinking.
I really don't know what to do because I want this guy so much, I can't stop thinking about him. I don't wanna hurt my boyfriend though and I don't even know if it would work with the guy because he lives a few miles away and goes to a different college.
Help??? Please
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As for the other guy. When things are tough in your relationship it's easy to find attention elsewhere and fall into an easy trap. At one point you'd have felt like that with the boy you are with now as that's what it's like in the early stages of a relationship, whose to say that it wouldn't be the same result with the boy you are liking now.
My advice would be to have a serious talk with your boyfriend and make him realise how you feel. If things don't change then leave him, but stay away from the other guy as your feelings can become very confused if you start getting too close. Sort things out with your boyfriend before you get involved elsewhere.
And my boyfriend isn't one I feel like I can talk to about things like that. I've tried a few times before to talk to him about us and said we need to change and he ignores me. He even admitted to me that he pays no attention
She said 'I was really drunk'.
As I think someone said in another thread in regards to a situation like this, If the bf cant change, id stear clear of both of them.
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind and put your own happiness first. Why should you be miserable just for the sake of not hurting his feelings. And to be honest if he doesn't care about you or your relationship I doubt it would hurt him if you broke up with him.
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in that situation i find it a bit weird that he didnt say or do anything to stop that. I wasnt there so I dont know the situation, but from the face of it, most people would feel a bit uneasy.
But back to the main point, would you really want to go out with a guy thats capable of doing that do his best friend. Would this have all happened and the late night chats if you both hadnt been drunk at the party?
Thanks for all your help
xx
Seriously, whatever you do with this situation it is your choice, but think of the fact you dont need this stress when you have important exams on. Step back from it all and possibly deal with it at a later date
I apologise about the best mate thing, i reread your first post, and noticed that you went to a party at your bf's best mates, but the guy in question was just a mate.
xx
follow your heart thats the best bit of advice anyone can give
And I think that's spot on.
And this new bloke sounds like a prick.